another good day!
first of all i managed to dress myself,brush my teeth and hair, and i can put on my sling by myself.
even better i saw the hand surgeon and they don't want to dig into it. the bone is only 1/4 inch shorter and said if they try and reset it that the muscles will just pull it out again. they straightened it some with painful pressure on the cast which a 2nd set of x-rays showed, and the new cast is less restrictive on my fingers and thumb so the hand is now more useful.
hopefully the other arm will be out of the sling in 2 weeks.