Originally Posted by Queen of Spades
Have you seen any youtubes or pictoral guides on how this is done (releasing fitting from connector with a pick)?
Go to an electronics, auto sparky or auto parts store & get some new spade terminals to go in the plugs, should only be a few cents. The connectors come in all different shapes & sizes but the actual terminals inside are fairly standard. Once you have the new bare terminals you'll see how they are retained.