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Old 03-27-2015, 02:20 AM   #1
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How to politely tell family. .

My next bike will be an all out super sport. I've made that quite clear. However I keep getting suggestions from former bike riding family members about what bike I SHOULD get. Tonight's was a triumph tiger 1050. Nothing bad about the bike but it's not what I want. I don't want an adventure type bike. I want a ss that I can have my adventures on.

The person suggesting this is my fil. A James May kind of fellow. Was hell fast on a gsxr 750 back in the day on tracks but has now slowed down lots and thinks everyone should do the same. I explain what I want and why but it just gets brushed off. Last suggestion was a newer vfr800 to replace my 99 model. Meh. Much the same.

Thing is, I like doing 600+km days. I don't mind a fire trail look see now and then. I love loading up and camping. I do this on my vfr and I'll do it on a ss bike too. I understand they may think I'm confused as to what bike I really do want, but I'm not.

How do I politely tell them that I'm a stubborn maltese man that will get what stirs (klay) my soul and I don't want anything else at this stage. Now my wife is getting involved too...
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Old 03-27-2015, 02:35 AM   #2
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Just bring it home and say it was a deal you couldn't pass up.
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Old 03-27-2015, 03:28 AM   #3
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My FIL is basically the same way. What he thinks is right, what everyone else thinks is wrong. Period. He is the smartest, most brilliant and knowledgeable man he knows.

So I generally just nod vaguely, walk away, and do my own thing.

Don't get me wrong, I actually like my FIL. Just there are times and subjects I refuse to participate with him on.
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Old 03-27-2015, 04:45 AM   #4
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Just bring it home and say, end of discussion.
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Old 03-27-2015, 05:23 AM   #5
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Old 03-27-2015, 05:47 AM   #6
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You don't have to tell him shit. Buy the bike you want. Unless he's paying for it or riding it, why does he give a shit what YOU buy and ride?
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Old 03-27-2015, 06:23 AM   #7
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Agreed with the others.
The only one you owe any sort of explanation to is your wife. Make your choice, then politely mention to her the night before you pick it up, which bike you chose and why.
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Old 03-27-2015, 06:27 AM   #9
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My FIL is basically the same way. What he thinks is right, what everyone else thinks is wrong. Period. He is the smartest, most brilliant and knowledgeable man he knows.

So I generally just nod vaguely, walk away, and do my own thing.

Don't get me wrong, I actually like my FIL. Just there are times and subjects I refuse to participate with him on.
I use to abhor these kind of people, now I have accepted that these arrogant narcissist exist in significant number, and have fun with it. When one embarks on a condescending lecture I simply get a few alternate viewpoint jabs in, then sit back and watch the show. It cracks me up. And I literally LOL at them, in front of them.
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My ex-FIL used to start every sentence with "What you really need to do is……." Screw that, do whatever you want. If you'd like to keep the peace, I like the suggestion above about a deal too good to pass up.
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Old 03-27-2015, 06:34 AM   #11
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How do I politely tell them that I'm a stubborn maltese man that will get what stirs (klay) my soul and I don't want anything else at this stage. Now my wife is getting involved too...
You don't have to tell anyone shit.
Why would you even ask here???

I understand if it's a financial issue with the S.O. but anyone else.... F-off.

Go buy what you want.
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Old 03-27-2015, 06:34 AM   #12
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At least they're actually telling to to buy a motorcycle. More than many get from family.
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Old 03-27-2015, 06:55 AM   #13
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If you are putting his daughter on the back of the bike, then FIL has a right to offer input.

BAM!

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Old 03-27-2015, 07:26 AM   #14
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Unless he is supporting you and your wife financially or you live with her parents then the decision is totally yours to make.

It will be you alone in your helmet happy or not about your purchase.
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Old 03-27-2015, 07:27 AM   #15
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I wouldn't worry about it. I'd just get what I wanted & not mention it unless they bring it up. In that case I'd just say I considered their input & decided I'd rather not spend money on something that I honestly DIDN'T want.
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