Coming back to the "Real World" after long trips

Discussion in 'Trip Planning' started by guyfawkes, May 31, 2016.

  1. nicholastanguma

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    lolwhut? Why?
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  2. AllSeasonRider

    AllSeasonRider Wandering, maybe a little lost...

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    I get it - some people just like being 'home', wherever that is. I'll admit, too, that I do enjoy coming back to 'home', though not to my old 'lifestyle', if that makes any sense.
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  3. theregulator

    theregulator Shut Up and Ride

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    The question is, how long till you're ready to go again once you're home? ...
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  4. AllSeasonRider

    AllSeasonRider Wandering, maybe a little lost...

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    That's quite a good question. Very often when I get back from being on the road long, I don't tend to ride a whole lot. I generally park the bike and take my time about getting things sorted on it - cleaned up, any maintenance issues resolved, etc. I think part of moto travel is the 'newness' of each day. If you've been gone long enough, driving your car can seem new again...

    However, I'm pretty much always in a constant state of ride planning - anything from long weekends to weeks or months long trips, though I'm lucky if I can do those big ones once every couple years. The means to go is always what stops me, not the desire. So, money and time no object, I'd say I wouldn't want to hang around home for too long...
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  5. FlatFifthFury

    FlatFifthFury Adventurer

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    By no means am I the famous world traveler but I can say this from my not that epic travels: coming home is strange. Spend even a few weeks away from not just your regular routine but anyone/anyplace that you know well and then coming back is odd. Last year on one trip I spent a few weeks up in Montana and Wyoming, mostly camping, and it took me a full week to even feel that my house was my own. I found myself surrounded by so many people, so many noisy and unnecessary things that it was oppressive. My wife was afraid that I something was wrong with me as my perspective had so radically changed. I had lived out of a small backpack and spent so much time by myself in, except for my bike, near total silence, that the "normal" world was a chaotic cacophonic mess.

    I couldn't wait for my next trip to get me back to the beautiful and simple existence of traveling to beautiful places with interesting people who expected nothing of me. Your experience will be your own but adventure travel has and will always be a transformative experience that never, hopefully, ends.
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  6. River-Runner

    River-Runner Been here awhile

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    Have not worn a watch since coming off a three week Grand Canyon Raft trip in 1999 - good place to see your own insignificance.
    A couple of weeks ago, we had just got a beer at Ballarat in DV. Kind of thought of the watch thing as we drove past the delapidated stone buildings where Fonda stops at the start of Easy Rider, looks at his watch, and tosses it away forever.......

    Damn Good start for a motorcycle trip......
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  7. ineptizoid

    ineptizoid I'm scared hold me

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    Yes indeed. For me, that's the single most enduring image from that movie, and I think of it often.

    I can only imagine what it would be like to take a yearlong trip. Longest ride I've ever done so far was 10 weeks, and when it was over I sort of lived in a daydream for several days, thinking of the things I'd seen, reminiscing, organizing my pictures. After that period of daydreaming, I started wanting to go back on the road, and I couldn't--I was flat broke, so I got a truck-driving job instead. I found it a very poor substitute for adventuring around the country on a motorcycle, and gave it up in less than a year. That was 20 yrs ago. I still daydream about that epic bike trip, and I'm glad I got a chance to do it, but I can't help but wonder how much better it would have been if I could've stretched it out for a whole year.
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  8. whizzerwheel

    whizzerwheel Using Occam's Razor

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    Post trip depression is cured by queuing up the next trip. I make a long term "plan" so I always have something to look forward to.
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  9. Asphalt Assault

    Asphalt Assault Been here awhile

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    The majority of my longer trips were between some type of life transition. My first cross country tour was with my father during my sophomore year of college from New York to Colorado. Then another month long trip when I decided to move out to California after college. A bunch of extended weekend trips as I worked during my mid 20's.

    Probably the best one so far was just this past summer during a relocation, job change, wedding and honeymoon. The timing just happened to work out perfectly and I am happy that I made the time before settling down into married life with a new city, job, etc. I'm happy that my wife encouraged me to follow-through with the trip since we both felt it might be more challenging down the road with kids, etc.

    Being in my early thirties, I am at that point where I don't have a problem with the duties of work, second mortgages and kids but also think it is important to take the time to wake up and "smell the roses" once in awhile. Whether it be camping, hiking or motorcycle travel; I think it's essential to make the time for the things that matter to each individual.
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  10. High Country Herb

    High Country Herb Adventure Connoiseur

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    Agreed. My wife and I throw out trip ideas to each other, thinking about the next 2-5 years. It gives us something to look forward to, as well as incentive to save money.

    Since our last month long trip in 2015, we have been thinking of Japan, or Eastern Europe. My wife also said she has a bucket list item of staying in one of those over-water bungalows in the South Pacific. That is going to add a lot of cost/effort for such a trivial thing, but we support each other's bucket lists no matter what. We'll probably combine it with Japan for a 2-week whirlwind, since I don't have a ton of vacation time saved up this year. 40 hours of that will be spent in airplanes I think. Ugh.

    We did manage to squeeze in a 3-week motorcycle trip to Utah last year, which was amazing yet relatively cheap.

    It looks like the Czech Republic > Romania trip will be pushed back to 2019 or 2020. Maybe by then I can afford to rent nicer transportation. How would it be to roll up to Dracula's castle in one of these?

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  11. vicmitch

    vicmitch Been here awhile

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    I was on a 6 month trip from New York City to Ushuaia last year. I must say that coming home was not too weird at all. Since we have the internet wherever we go, it's not like we are out of touch. Years ago I traveled for months in South America, pre internet, just calling my parents once a month with a phone card to let tham know i was alive. That was real. After shipping my bike, I took a city bus to Buenos Aires airport, next morning I was at JFK, took the subway and a bus and I was home. No shock at all. When ever people asked if I missed being home when I was away, I said no, I miss being away now that I'm home.


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  12. 2wheeljake

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    I am a happy kid of parents who lived their own lives for themselves and also had kids. I now have two adoloscent girls of my own and am watching them grow and experience and consider all the wonders of life for the first time...and I can't wait to share their experiences of travel and exploration. I am admittedly "trapped" in another 15 years of mortgage at 46 and dying to travel again, but I travel and camp to the extent that I am able, and, more importantly, I approach life with enthusiasm and joyfulness; I am constantly inspired and motivated by the experiences and aspirations of others - many on this forum included, my parents, friends and children that are experiencing their lives to their fullest. I am not living a stagnant life because I cannot currently travel - I am living a life to the fullest in my mind and preparing for future experiences, riding off-road motorcycles, learning languages, experiencing new things around me; to me life exists more in the mind than in the physical attributes of the world that we experience. To me the essence of travel is an openness to experience the unique lives of others and be willing to look at life from a different perspective - not to earn notches for the multiple countries or places traveled to...of course this is just my perspective...
    And thanks to all who do share their experiences of travel by bike...my world is definitely richer for it...
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  13. Overanalyze

    Overanalyze because when given the option, I will overthink it

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    It is very very hard. I lived away from the country for many years, my hometown for longer and have now come back to my hometown and I am having a difficult adjustment. Coupled with just having returned from a three month "walk about" in Asia "return" is hard. You will have changed immeasurably, especially on a bike for a year, and so will your friends but differently i.e. your paths will have diverged dramatically. I have found my closest closest friends are still with me but you have to work at it. Some close friends could not deal with it (jealously, intimidation, incomprehension as to why, etc.) and we moved on. The "B" and "C" friends/acquaintances went by the way side pretty much. Would I change a think, HELL no and neither should you. Just know that everyone will not "dig" what you have done and you will find out who your friends are upon your return. One suggestion, either set up a blog or simply announce the trip and post it regularly on Facebook with lots of photos (also click the function that tells everyone what city you are in). I found that allowed my friends to "come along" with me on the trip (many said that they felt they were on the trip) and it helped a great deal, especially with lots of commentary. Hope that this helps.
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  14. DaMonk45

    DaMonk45 I B Da Monk

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    Any extended trip no matter where or how, will change you.
    Once you have changed, and you have settled into your own skin.
    There is no going back.
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  15. Red-hungarian

    Red-hungarian Been here awhile

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    Planning a 4 week trip up to AK this summer, not sure this qualifies as a "Long Trip" but I will say this, my every day life is NOT the real world. The "Real World" is when I take time off to do what I want to do. Nothing like getting away from the daily/weekly grind I have to do to give me perspective on what is really important.
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  16. PropTP

    PropTP Been here awhile

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    I have only been away for a month, but i'm going through the day-dreaming phase right now. Physically i'm at work, but mentally i'm in a whole different place...And having ridden solo, i dont talk that much about my trip. The stories are just not the same, as having experienced it.

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  17. Phaedrus68

    Phaedrus68 Been here awhile

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    Story of my life. Every day.
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  18. theshnizzle

    theshnizzle Long timer

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    Don't diminish your own accomplishments.....sure, 4 weeks is a long trip. For some people, one week is a long trip. I hesitate to put up a ride report sometimes cause I look at all the exotic and exciting places other riders have been,epic globe trotting adventures, who's going to want to read or care about my own four week ride up to Alaska or wandering around the southern states.

    I have wondered what going to happen when the ride.com riders stop thier tour,they have been on the road, I think four years now. How will they adjust back into a semblance of "regular" life?
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  19. DaMonk45

    DaMonk45 I B Da Monk

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    I think, I think we all have our reasons we take the rides we do. I think, we all have the things we want to do, to see and to feel.
    No matter what the reasons are, we did get out there, for a week or 3, for a month or 6.
    There maybe different logistics involved in a Multi year trip when you come back as opposed to a multi week trip. But at the end of the day I wonder how much different it is?
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  20. guyfawkes

    guyfawkes Move along, nothing to see here

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    Im at the "end" of this trip now. Currently in Bolivia, in 22 days im going home and this thread came to my mind this morning.
    Thing is that all my worries are kind of gone. Im only going home to sell all my stuff, get rid of my rental and will head out again after a month or two.

    Whats the saying "Whenever you start making plans fate falls from its chair laughing". So im done with plans :-)
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