Does solo = lonely?

Discussion in 'Trip Planning' started by Speeder54, Mar 29, 2011.

  1. Jenn

    Jenn praise seitan!

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    Don't confuse alone with lonely! That video a few posts before me is right on target.

    I am an extrovert and confess I rather dread large group experiences - I even decided to NOT do the Oakland half marathon this year because it was too many people.
  2. bouldergeek

    bouldergeek Filthy, poor KLR dweeb

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    I'm an only child, and very comfortable in my own skin, in my own company.

    However, I have learned that at about the five-month stage, I get really tired of being a Gringo in Latin America. The language barrier, the repetition of predictable interactions, the repetition of each day's routines really start to get on my nerves.

    Coming up on my sixth month on the road (much of it shared with other people), and I actively want my trip to be over. It's hard to determine whether it is just me, or objectively the environment. Since I left Argentina, each country has been less inviting, less engaging, and more apt to annoy me.
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  3. Capri142

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    Most all of my riding is solo yet I rarely ever feel Lonely. One in awhile it is nice to meet up with another rider on the road and ride with them for a short while of even stop with them for a meal but I find I am much more comfortable riding alone. I guess I can say that the only times that I have ever felt lonely, that I have ever really wished that there was someone else along is when I happen to see something particularly beautiful such as a stunning sunset. It's almost impossible to put such things into words and pictures never really capture the feeling that goes along with the setting.
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  4. Capri142

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    If you do decide to head off on your own have your bike checked over by a good mechanic before leaving and do a 1OO MILE or so ride just to make sure all is well before heading out on the big ride alone. Not saying that it will prevent any problems but it will help and give you some peace of mind. The last thing anyone needs while riding alone is to have the bike break down.
  5. Vagabond25

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    I agree. It's one thing to be on the road all alone in your helmet all day, but to not be able to chat with someone at the end of it all (let alone a helping hand to pitch camp or fix dinner) does get old quickly.

    I think the best way to mitigate frayed nerves is to include everyone in the planning phase leading up to the trip. If expectations for the trip aren't decided democratically from the very start, you're just asking for trouble later down the road.
  6. warriorcole

    warriorcole n00b sch00b

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    My solo trips have been among my best but I tend to get a bit unmotivated at times alone. It is best to travel alone but plan to attend events or rallies where people will be present part of the time. I am about ready for a solo camping trip.
  7. rossphoto

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    Being alone and being lonely are completely different things. I have traveled to 50 or so countries on motorcycles, in VW Beetles on busses planes and trains... Hell I even crossed the USA on a bicycle. Twice... I have certainly felt lonely at times however, I have felt just as lonely maybe even more so right here at home where my family and friends are right around the corner. It sucks when I want someone to do something with and realize most of my friends are married with kids and being 43 and single is tough as shit, especially here in the states where all the women I meet seem to... well never mind that prolly shouldn't go there go... When I'm traveling Im constantly moving, seeing new and interesting things and most importantly for me and the main reason I travel is that Im always meeting new people. Every single day. Most of them greet me with a smile and curiosity. It's so great!!!! Go for it, go solo smile at everyone you meet. A smile goes millions of miles... It'll most likely be the best experience of your life...
  8. rossphoto

    rossphoto GDTRFB

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    on a trip like this id say learn how to work on and check your own bike. there will no doubt be many breakdowns and mechanical situations to deal with...
  9. LoneStar

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    Ditto bro :deal
  10. warriorcole

    warriorcole n00b sch00b

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    Well said my friend. Try being 52 and single and living in the deep south where most of the women are should I say "big hair and fingernails". I just end up with the bent and broken ones, freaks and geeks just to avoid the mundane. Don't get me wrong, the people here are the best in the world but all the good ones are taken. Happy trails!!!
  11. Mastery

    Mastery Mr. Funny Man

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    Best posted words of the week, right there. :clap
  12. catweasel67

    catweasel67 RD04

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    My experiences vary..

    I, too, tend to tour alone but find that when I'm in Europe most of my nights tend to be spent alone..and that's OK with me. A good book, the Interweb, writing etc etc etc. Actually spending an evening. or the night, with someone is pretty rare, at least for me.

    In England it's a different matter - but then I've the language and am far more familiar with the culture.

    The most, by far and away, hospitable country, for me, is the USA.

    Let me put it this way - during a week's touring in Europe, I can go through 3 or 4 books. In the USA, over the course of 5 weeks, I didn't manage to finish 1. As much as I may criticise the yanks, and I do, one thing that I can't fault them on is their hospitality, generosity and warm-heartedness.
  13. jared p

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    solo = lonely = why i ride

    nothing better than to get out and go do whatever i want when i want where i want as fast or slow as i want. i avoid people on purpose when i ride so i don't have to talk with them. i generally hate having to ride with multiple people who don't ride my style of riding.
  14. kf1128

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    for me, solo = being alone, which is not the same as being lonely. i get to spend way to much time with people in my daily life, so when i get a chance to take off on the bike for a while, i really enjoy the alone time.
  15. Argus16

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    I look forward to a solo trip once a year, usually for a week. Wouldn't want to always ride solo but those longer trips are good for the character.
  16. jimmex

    jimmex Guero con moto

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    You should try Mexico; her people take hospitality to another level.
  17. Asphalt Assault

    Asphalt Assault Been here awhile

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    +1 for solo travels. While everyone will have their own unique preferences; I believe everyone should experience a couple of good long solo tours in their lifetime. It's good for the soul, gives much for flexibility to do as you please and definitely not hard to pick up more conversations and riding/camping buddies as you go along (based on my experiences anyway).

    Here are some shots of a month long solo national park tour I did right after my honeymoon. While I do enjoy weekend rides with friends, I would much rather travel alone for any significant amount of time.

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  18. ToothDocJay

    ToothDocJay Been here awhile

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    Since you sound like a solitary person, I'm sure you will be fine.

    I know how you feel though. In my line of work I deal with people all day, in typically uncomfortable situations, and by the end of the day, I'm talked and socialized out. Need my "me" time to recharge.

    That said I'm fortunate to have some really compatible riding partners when we go on our annual 2 week and weekend rides. Yours...wow....Maybe one day if the wife doesn't object to me being gone that long. Will continue gradually annoying her until she suggests it........
  19. boatpuller

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    Something about that statement seems odd, or troubling.... If it works for you two, great.
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  20. RG1984

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    The biggest problem I ever encountered riding solo was going stir crazy in my own mind. A set of ear buds changes everything. I've only ridden alone- this summer I have plans to ride with a friend- but otherwise I like the solitude.