Does solo = lonely?

Discussion in 'Trip Planning' started by Speeder54, Mar 29, 2011.

  1. Asphalt Assault

    Asphalt Assault Been here awhile

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    Not to steer away from the purpose of this thread but happy to clarify since my post peaked your interest. My tour just so happened to fall in between multiple major life events. Job change, city relocation, new home purchase, marriage and honeymoon. The timing worked out really well for me since I made sure I had plenty of down time before heading back to the real world. My wife took advantage of the same kind of timeline before she started medical school. No complaints because it works for us.

  2. whizzerwheel

    whizzerwheel Using Occam's Razor

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    For me....there's a time and place for everything. I've ridden solo plenty, even on cross country trips and enjoyed them just fine. When traveling south of the border though, I prefer to travel with someone. You do sacrifice that potential interface you get with strangers because you're more approachable as a lone traveler...but the chance for something going wrong is much higher, and I prefer to have another person around to help sort that out if "it" happens. Just depends on what your personal tolerance level is for risk and the unknown. I think it is a character builder to travel alone, because it usually puts most people outside their comfortable box....but sometimes the risks outweigh the gains.
    I broke my leg while traveling in Ecuador a few years ago...everything turned out ok, but it certainly put some things in perspective for me. FWIW=0
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  3. ben2go

    ben2go Moto Flunky

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    Being alone out on lonely desolate roads gives me a chance to shake off all the negativity that's been happening in my life and allows me to find my positive center. At 40 years old, it still surprises me how much better I feel to spend a day riding, and it's equally surprising how much better I feel after being out for a week. I'm speaking about feeling better both physically and mentally, especially mentally. I haven't been able to get a full week on the road in many years. I occasionally can get a long weekend, but that pushing it. When I do get out, I try to limit my contact with humans as much as possible, especially when I can camp.

    I don't get lonely as in missing companionship or a relationship. I just missing being around familiar people. A person can be surrounded by people and still be lonely. That's something I used to be when I was young. I still don't really understand why tho, but I don't really dwell on it either.
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  4. Ruger12g

    Ruger12g Adventurer

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    I love "Me Time".. Everyday life as you all know is pulling you in directions that you cant ignore. I love to camp, hunt, fish. ect.
    I also have a lot of friends and family I like to hang with.
    So Im about a week out on my first Solo camping trip on the bike, this trip is coming in at about 2000 miles, I cant hardly contain myself Im so stoked. Just me and the bike, Drop camp where I want, no discussions about where I stop.. Just me and the machine. Stay tuned, Whiteys wild adventure is 6 days from starting. I hope the weather is nice to me..(No snow)
  5. ineptizoid

    ineptizoid I'm scared hold me

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    I'm familiar with this--being surrounded by people and feeling lonely--and it's a REALLY bad feeling. If people aren't on the same "wavelength," it can be difficult or impossible for them to relate to each other and communicate in any kind of meaningful way. After the banal/superficial topics have been covered (and that doesn't take very long at all), there's an awkwardness that feels much worse than just being alone. This is exactly the reason I don't go to family reunions anymore...the "forced friendliness" is just painful! Reminds me of a quote from the movie World's Greatest Dad:
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  6. PackRat

    PackRat Huey Guns

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    I almost always ride solo. I have all the flexibility I need and since I ride a GSA, other GS riders are always stopping to talk. Even running across Labrador and Newfoundland I was never alone even though I started out that way. But I do stop for any bike broken down on the road. I usually do not have such a tight schedule that I can't change a little. I once spent 7 days rebuilding a final drive in a hotel in Alberta which would have been miserable for a friend. But while waiting for parts, I explored on foot and met lots of really nice folks.

    I have departed on several trips just knowing I was going east or west but no specific destination and only a date I promised my wife I would be back. On long trips we try to arrange a weekend together some where she can fly in.

    I have also stopped and asked a rancher if I could hunt snakes on the ranch if I promised to pick up any trash I found and left only tire and foot prints. They usually come by the camp at night and have a drink with me and tell stories.

    I was once riding alone between Artesia and Cloudcroft New Mexico and stopped to help a biker wearing Mongols colors who was out of gas on the side of Hwy 82. He probably thought I was crazy to stop the GSA and step out of my Stitch and share a couple of bottles of water with him. His girlfriend had caught a ride east to a gas station and he had been there at least an hour. We talked about his wreck which gave him the cane he needed to stand up.

    You don't get to do that sort of thing when you are in a hurry to get to point B. I did my share of Iron Butt rides, but I like to stop and enjoy the wonderful people and country we live in. At 71, I still look forward to just setting out with my camping gear on my GSA, even if it is just for the flexibility of my schedule. And I am fortunate to have lots of old Marine friends around this country to meet for lunch.

    However, I really do enjoy riding with my son or daughter, who both have bikes.
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  7. High Country Herb

    High Country Herb Adventure Connoiseur

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    I like doing day rides solo, or even a few days. I'm generally an introvert so don't mind being alone. By a week, however, I miss my wife because she's my best friend.

    You know you're an extrovert if you prefer recruiting a stranger to travel with over riding solo.

    Meeting people along the way is something different. That is what makes it an adventure.
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  8. Eatmore Mudd

    Eatmore Mudd Mischief on wheels.

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    This.

    Inviting inmates to ride a day or a few is also an option.
  9. FleshWound

    FleshWound Adventurer

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    99% of my rides are solo. There is something liberating about being on the open roads by yourself without a care in the world. I really love the flexibility of doing what you want when you want. I like to hop off the bike to take pictures and I know that can be annoying to some. I have met some great people along the way. My theory is show up to a camp site with a cold 6 pack ( I carry a little whisky too), say hi to a few people and there is a good chance you'll have a good time. At the very least you get to drink alone :photog
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  10. ben2go

    ben2go Moto Flunky

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    Lately, when I go on longer rides, up to a week, I never get lonely. I enjoy the time to myself and avoid populated areas. I limit my contact with people when I can. I take roads through areas that are as remote as possible. I haven't been on any really long trips in many years, so I'm not sure if I would get lonely.
  11. Gham

    Gham Long timer

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    I can easily tour alone but it was years in the making.As a young man (20's and 30's) I traveled a lot with my job and was single.

    Had I spent that era with a wife/family and had a job where I came home every night it might be way different.I don't tour with other riders,just my wife as passenger and that is completely different than the former.
  12. Gham

    Gham Long timer

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    Pretty good theory.Cheers
  13. b4thenite

    b4thenite Been here awhile

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  14. ben2go

    ben2go Moto Flunky

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    Yes :dunno