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Discussion in 'Face Plant' started by FatTirePlease, Sep 23, 2012.
finally finished and posted my Ride for Trevor RR:
what a trip it was...
Trevor seems to be someone I'd like to meet. Bought the shirt to help the cause.
if you ever come through Arkansas, we can probably make it happen
Thanks for posting that paypal a/c Thumpstart. I just found this item and like so many riders have been grateful for his terrific prose in the past.
"Trevor update: The consequences of traumatic brain injury were in full blown form tonight. I've heard the words,the insults, the accusations so many times. He says I'm garbage, I do nothing. Tells me F you. I hate you. I wish I were dead. Strangers gather around, staring, calling 911. I fall into a black pit and the waves of hurt smash into me. An onslaught that knocks me to my knees and churns my stomach. It's just as devastating, painful and humiliating as the first time. Maybe even more so, because in between hope grows. I want this nightmare to stop. I want just one day that is truly good and simple. Not bargained and pretended into being good. Do not drink and drive during the holidays or any days.... Without a plan and responsible behavior you could be the one who makes the absolute hell we live a reality for someone. All I wanted to do tonight was some Christmas shopping. It isn't his fault, he's the victim. A drunk driver destroyed who we were. Don't do this to someone. Don't drink and drive." From Trevor's Mom
Paypal also works - email@example.com
Peace and blessings to you and yours.
I have no other thoughts or words.
You are an angel for continuing to understand this is NOT him talking, and not giving up. I would think even most mothers would have given up by now, you are just incredible. I hope you can find a way through this and things get better for both of you.
Any updates how everything is going?
I've been in touch with Trevor and his mom. Here's a copy/paste of her latest message. I'd love to hear from you guys and see if there's anything that can be done to help. I also asked her about their current location. Maybe someone local can pay him a visit sometime? (P.S., some guys on another forum were asking about making donations. That's what she's referring to when she mentions the fund. You can still order T-shirts: https://www.zazzle.com/trevor_ware_b_o_x_n_i_f_e_when_were_you_young_t_shirt-235073510696497768 "
"There isn't a fund right now. We're trying to brainstorm some sort of project that would give Trev some purpose, creative outlet and hopefully income. His tremor is still significant in his right hand and so drawing is a challenge. To be honest everything he used to love is a source of immense frustration. He's laser focused on walking and feels he can't do anything until that happens. I'll keep trying to get him to log onto the forums. What would interest the guys? T-shirts with his previous artwork? His photography? I've felt a documentary would be a great project that would have a meaningful purpose. People shouldn't dissapear because of horrendous tragedy but it happens too often too easily. Thank you for reaching out. Any feedback is appreciated."
There used to be remote triggers for cameras we used in very low light conditions to not move the camera. Would this help any with his photography?
Agree about not disappearing due to horrendous tragedy, but that takes work on both sides. From watching family members in similar situations, joining civic or local organizations becomes an important social nexus which their week revolves around. The warmth from the other members is therapeutic, but even more so is the giving back to the community in whatever way a disabled person is capable, which tends to define being a productive man. (Following his stroke, my father fills the drinking cups with ice at his civic club's weekly Bingo fund raisers, in addition to going to their weekly meetings. He'd be a shell of a man without this, but feels like a contributing man with it. It's powerfully important.) If Trevor is not involved in something like this, he should consider it.
BTW, I want to comment on your writing in the above paragraph: You have an amazing economy of words accomplished by using few but powerful words in thoughtful ways.