Parents: did you all continue to ride immediately after your child was born?

Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by Grad, Nov 27, 2012.

  1. royal

    royal Don't Follow

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    I grew up riding, even though no one in my family rode. It was something that called to me at a very early age. Honestly, I feel more alive, confident, and at home on a bike than anywhere else.

    That being said, when my wife got pregnant with our first, she asked (She did not order me) if I would give up riding until our child was grown. To give a little frame of reference, my wife worked trauma for a large hospital and had to deal with unspeakable injuries from riders and drivers on a daily basis.

    I said I would because I really did, and always have, known the risks involved with motorcycling. Two more kids followed and when my kids became older teenagers, I asked my wife if she would be comfortable with me getting back into motorcycling. I was 43 at the time. She understood how much it meant to me and appreciated the sacrifice I made for the sake of our family.

    I'm 51 now and have spent the last 8 years making up for lost time. Once motorcycling is in your blood, in your spirit, it is very difficult to not heed the call. And it called to me everyday I didn't ride.

    I know my wife still isn't comfortable with me riding and I know she worries a tremendous amount. I don't think she can push away the memories of putting broken bodies back together, or watching them die on the OR table. But, she loves me and she knows that it is part of me. Compromise is a large part of being married.
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  2. motu

    motu Loose Pre Unit

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    I have 4 kids and have never given up riding...but my wife did. This is my eldest daughter at about 3 weeks old. It was a simple solution, slap a child/adult chair on the Norton.

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  3. hugemoth

    hugemoth Long timer

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    I never stopped riding, My daughter started riding with me in a side car at 8 months old. By 2 she was sitting in front of me on a street and a trail bike. By 5 on the passenger seat on long trips. At 11 riding with me on her own bike off road, At 16 riding a CX500 on trips with me on a Goldwing. I grew up riding motorcycles and so did she.
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  4. DC2wheels

    DC2wheels Castle Anthrax troll

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    As was already mentioned- it is your own decision.

    In my case, I stopped riding once the first of 2 kids was born. I actually then sold the bike. MY decision.

    Skip forward... got very involved with family- coached their youth hockey, plus family skiing, bicycle riding (and our daughter eventually racing)

    Second child hit 18 y.o.- a legal adult- and I bought another MC.

    Oh yeah, they are 22 and 25 now and both have MC endorsements and ride their own bikes. They can make their own decisions in the future.
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  5. orforester

    orforester Adventurer

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    As was mentioned, your call. I dated my wife on a RD 350 and have never been without a bike, even with two kids, now 26 and 28. Still riding and enjoying all 5 bikes. Didn't have alot of miles for many years, but always got out and stretched the cycle muscles every year. My wife has not riden with me since back surgery in 2000, and didn't with the kids around. Again Choice.
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  6. Foot dragger

    Foot dragger singletracker

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    Riding is life,life is riding. not a big deal. Why would you quit?
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  7. concours

    concours WFO for 41 years

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    Never considered NOT riding. Rode much less, had to take the cage with kids, their stuff etc., but always rode some.
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  8. sailah

    sailah Lampin' it

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    I gave it up when my first was born 5 years ago. Had a Ducati and KTM 950, both of those before I dated my wife. I loved the long trips, the ADV rallies type riding. Well. with a new infant that ain't happening. I bought a KTM 525 as a placemarker in the garage but never rode it (never really rode dirtbikes) and sold it.

    I got back into bikes by building them. My wife was pissed off at first because she thought she had rid her life of bikes forever:lol3 But I could never say never. I did make a conscious effort to back off the long trips, more to be fair to her and the kids than fear of getting hurt.

    I bought a new dirt bike last year and find I enjoy that a lot. Good exercise, good skill building. I actually hurt myself much more everytime I go out, but since I'm not talented enough to go fast it's usually bumps and bruises.

    I still take my street bikes out and rip around but days off riding I'm usually in the woods riding with buddies. Much more comradery and BSing with the guys helmets off, challenging. I also like the wheelies, jumps etc.

    I did one big street ride this spring from PA to NC and back in 4 days. It rained for 3. The one day it was sunny and beautiful I was in boone NC headed to the dragon to meet up with friends and I had one of THOSE days. You all know what I mean. The roads were perfect, cherry blossoms out, temp perfect no traffic, heaven.

    My wife insisted on serious life insurance (I have 2 million policy plus I had to make her a partner in my corp). It's a big nut every month but screw it. I would be a miserable prick if I didn't have some outlet.

    Try woods riding if you can. Good way to get the thrills without the fear of getting smacked by a car and easier to sell the wife on.
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  9. trc.rhubarb

    trc.rhubarb ZoomSplat!

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    My wife quit riding with me when she got pregnant. I ride every day but a lot less on the weekends. I still get in about 14-15k per year between pleasure and commuting but its not so much planned as opportinistic. I ride solo a lot now because of that.
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  10. RVDan

    RVDan Long timer

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    My Dad never stopped riding, my sister may even have been conceived on a motorcycle. I don't think they wore helmets back then either.

    He didn't stop riding until one day he decided to take his bike apart and restore it. It's probably still in pieces somewhere.
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  11. glasswave

    glasswave Been here awhile

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    You have made a pragmatic acceptance of the facts. That said, I see three choices, you can either minimize, nearly eliminate or entirely eliminate the risks of serious injury of death from riding.

    to minimize the risks -- limit your riding: don't commute, avoid surface streets, traffic, the city, darkness. Don't ride fast. Don't ride drunk. Country roads at moderate speeds during the day w/o alcohol probably cuts the 35x stat by around a factor of 10.

    to nearly eliminate the risks -- don't ride on the street. ride only off road or ride on the track!!!!

    to entirely eliminate the risks -- quit riding at all, now you must
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  12. Grad

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    Thanks for all of the perspectives everyone. I am truly a rider, I know it deep in my heart and I know it will always be there. I also know that, barring a debilitating injury or illness, when I retire I will be doing some SERIOUS touring all over this beautiful continent. What I keep agonizing over is if I should sell the bike, and how long I will be able to go without it. This has actually been going on for 6 months now...I sold my GS because my wife was pregnant. Then I got miserable not seeing a bike in the garage so I picked up a Speed Triple. Then I started doing wheelies from every stop sign so I traded it even on the Tiger. It is similar to my old GS and I am happy with the bike, but after my sister pulled me aside this Thanksgiving I have really started to do some soul-searching again. Not sure what I am going to do, because I literally went to sleep last night thinking that I will just do some mods to the S2000 and enjoy the hell out of it, but then I woke up this morning thinking about how nice it is to ride in the mountains and pay a visit to the new TWO when it opens this spring.

    I LOVE riding, but I also LOVE my son and want to be there for his baseball games and his first date and the day he goes off to college. I manage the risk very well, but the stark reality is that we participate in a dangerous lifestyle and are extremely vulnerable without that boring cage around us.

    I will definitely up my policy from the current 250K to a million if I continue to ride, if for no other reason that I can feel comfortable knowing my wife would not have to work if I was gone.
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  13. elemental

    elemental Tainted Adventurist

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    As others have said, you'll end up riding way less for a few years anyway. In my opinion, there's no need to make a conscious decision to stop. Mine are 3 and 5 and I've gone from year-long adventures and 30,000 km per year commuting/leisure riding to less than 3k a year in opportunistic quick local circuits. My wife rides her bike maybe twice a year on multi-day tours, but each time she does she loves it and reminds her who she is apart from 'mom'. (And when she's away I get to demonstrate that the house can function with just the boys around too :evil )

    The same applies to me. Riding is part of who I am. My kids associate bikes with me and me with bikes. The shout 'look daddy a motorcycle!' EVERY time they see a bike. They climb up and sit on my bike and make brumm-brumm noises (and scratch up the damn tank doing it) EVERY time they go in the garage. The eldest can reach the pillion footpegs on the bike I just bought. He cried when I sold my old one, it was all he knew as daddy's bike. He begs me to buy a KTM 50 kid's bike EVERY time we go to the big dealer - one day I will.

    I respect everyone's choices, but I would say be yourself, be happy. There's plenty of sacrifices in parenthood. Bikes are positive, not death-traps; don't cave in to the stereotype. A happy dad is a good dad.

    PS: I just started commuting into work again just to get some proper riding in. It's invigorating, liberating, and reminds me why I ride.

    But only you know what's right for you.
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  14. Jim Moore

    Jim Moore Long timer

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    Mommies make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Daddies do cool shit like ride motorcycles. Your kids don't need two mommies.

    You're welcome,
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  15. UnsureFooting

    UnsureFooting Title of User Here

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    I kept riding.
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  16. RidingDonkeys

    RidingDonkeys Purveyor of Awesome

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    MrsDonkeys and I have had that discussion...and laughed.

    This Ride Report made her want to learn to ride. It also proved that we would be fools to stop riding when we had kids.

    http://www.advrider.com/forums/showthread.php?t=517112

    Riding is something that is best learned while young, so why not keep riding, and pass on your love of it to your children?

    Plus, it is a great excuse to buy a hack. :D

    Sent from the voices in my head and transcribed by their drinking buddy.
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  17. sloMark

    sloMark Been here awhile

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    Yep. Sold my 990adv and got a new plated Husaberg fe450. I got a new baby girl 6 weeks out and a 3year old boy. I stick to the dirt, but can jump on the road if need be. I get out, but not too often.

    Don't have kids if you are not willing to put your wants, needs, desires 2nd, 3rd, 4th.........especially if your wife works full time too.

    We got the life insurance thing too.

    And honestly I'd rather play Lego dump trucks and watch Wall-E for the 92nd time than leave my boy at home and go ride. :D. This time with him (them) I will never get back, once it's gone it's gone. :freaky
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  18. Nadgett

    Nadgett Been here awhile

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    I gave up riding, but for economic reasons. I got a bike again six years ago, when our daughter was 14.
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  19. ABBlender

    ABBlender Adventurer

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    I started riding when my son was about a year old. I have always been big into mountain biking and had always wanted to get a motorcycle. I figured that I would rather have a son with a dad who would persue interests in life and not just get bogged down in the mundane like so many others and lose that spark. The deal with the wife was that I had to be ATGATT. Being on two wheels in general makes me happy, motorized or not. My wife can definately see a difference when I ride...I am a nicer guy to be around. Riding gets my head centered for the day.

    My son LOVES the motorbike. Almost 2 now and he is a monster on the strider bike.
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  20. preppypyro

    preppypyro Been here awhile

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    I just had a kid this past summer, and I actually rode my bike to and from the hospital where my kid was born. I dont plan on stopping riding at all.

    After my kid was born I commuted every day to work and back, just the same as before. I havent quit eating red meat in hopes that I will maybe live longer, and I will ride as much as I can, without the fear of possibley getting into an accident.

    Life is what it is. No one lives forever, and when its your time to go, your gonna go whether your on a motorcycle, or the toilet.

    Just ask Elvis.
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