Riding with your wife

Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by 390beretta, Mar 24, 2013.

  1. windmill

    windmill Long timer

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    My wife drives a Subaru Outback with those stick people in the back window. Nuff said?

    The only riding she does is in the sidecar.
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  2. Import

    Import Been here awhile

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    Sadly my beloved has retired from riding motorcycles... And moved onto much more expensive hobbies.....horses.
    When we rode together, she liked to lead, and we had a scala intercomm which only worked one way(or so I told her).. Any critism of her riding or technique was frowned upon........I new my place.....
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  3. GI_JO_NATHAN

    GI_JO_NATHAN Long timer

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    Yep, he does.
    He says it's how his brain works.

    Welcome to ADVRider!:D
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  4. fallingoff

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    thks

    bastard

    took my thunder

    cheers
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  5. Mountain Cruiser

    Mountain Cruiser Banned

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    I can understand your wife's point. If it was me i would just let her lead and not worry about every little technical point of her riding. She left a blinher on, no big deal. And I don't require any special consideration from the leader when there is going to be lane change.
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  6. sphyrnidus

    sphyrnidus born to ride

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    Interesting subject. I've been riding for > 20 years and ride in groups, in the mountains, long distance trips and the guys and me did extensive training so we ride quite a lot and often quite fast. A little example Italy There are even a few motorcycle police officers in this group and a guy with a racing license.
    So about five years ago I met this lovely lady. She had been riding as long as I have, the difference being, that she had only been commuting every day to work for 15 years, but did not ride trips etc. Another thing she had going for her was that she is an avid scuba diver, this however she took further than I did, as I was a holiday diver and she is an instructor.

    So I took her riding and I know I ride quite well, but I'm not an instructor and was afraid I wouldn't do to good as a teacher. I tackled this by taking her to a two day advanced riding course. We had a lot of fun and she was quite happy with what she learned. The next thing was that we went on a trip together. She wants to stay behind me, because she said she could learn more by watching me. We also went on a trip with the guys, but she didn't like that as she, at that time, felt she couldn't keep up. The guys didn't mind that at all. Over the years she has been getting quite a lot better and can ride as good as any of us, and better. But still she doesn't want to ride in front of me, she does go on trips with the guys, but only for weekends, not for longer trips. We do have comm, but rarely use it. We use sign language, like while diving.
    That sets the equilibrium too, the diving. She is a better navigator than I am. We dive a lot in murky waters, where navigation is essential. So she always gets to lead the dives and makes the decisions where we go and what we do.

    I do not offer a lot of criticism while riding, yes she always leaves the turn signal on too, I just signal whit my hand, it's no big thing. Last time we went riding she was constantly riding at the outer right hand side of the lane. At a stopping light I just said: Mind your position please. The answer was "you're right, I was not paying attention." with the lady in the Pyrenees and the Alps

    So riding she listens to me, diving it's the other way around :D
    And as we talk about her riding, I always tell her how good she had become, but maybe you good try this or that. That is the way we train people at courses I give in my work too. First "what was good?" then "what could be done better?", and not "what went wrong?" That is a better approach for any training, then just telling them "you're an oaf and should do this or that"
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  7. dwestly

    dwestly Refuses to Grow Up!

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    Between us, my wife and I currently have 7 bikes in the garage, including our BMWs, track bikes and a couple of collector bikes. She only started riding 13 years ago, but has now logged about 200k miles or so. We're also both MSF RiderCoaches (for the past 4 years or so), OEM demo riders, track riders, and do some other stuff in the industry as well.

    Even after several years of her riding (I've got over 40 years in the saddle), I kept seeing her as a new rider. I would constantly be evaluating her riding and would often (not thinking) try to correct errors. It finally dawned on me after several years that she was now an experienced rider, and was going through the same learning process we all do as we ride. I finally learned to shut up and let her learn on her own. It has been a great time watching her mature as a rider. Now when we finish a ride, we'll often talk about a particular stretch of road, or the line through a corner that one or the other of us screwed up! Instead of having a wife who rides, I now have a great and capable riding partner who also just happens to be my beautiful wife.

    We also gave up rider-to-rider comms a few years ago. We discovered that the comms only meant we kept talking about other stuff besides riding when we were on the bikes. Instead of that, now we too have a large collection of hand signs we use to communicate when necessary. It lets us enjoy the ride and each other, while not being distracted by other stuff.

    Oh, and she cleans her own bikes and changes her own oil, too. I am a lucky guy... :D
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  8. joef

    joef Been here awhile

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    Riding with my wife, NO, I don't do it why ruin a good thing :1drink
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  9. TXRKC

    TXRKC Been here awhile

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    This sentence had absolutely nothing to do with the rest of your post. I'm curious why you added it. Also, I ride a Harley and I wouldn't be the slightest bit impressed. She stood on the pegs, big deal?
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  10. Vankaye

    Vankaye n00b on the move

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    I was picturing a beautiful long, tall, slender lady wearing a leather bikini and motocross boots. You be quite! :D

    Not exactly what I saw in my minds eye but a great all the same!

    [​IMG]
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  11. Vankaye

    Vankaye n00b on the move

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    I do ride with my wife who is new to riding. She got her XT225 from Santa this year. It's funny how it works. I prefer she ride in front for two major reasons:

    1. I want her to set her own pace - ride her own ride and go where she wants to go.
    2. I want to keep my I on her. If she has any kind of trouble I will see it before she prolly does..

    But she wants to follow for completely different reasons:

    1. She doesn't want me to watch her every move followed by "Today's Lesson"
    2. She wants me to pick the line.
    3. She wants to see what I do and how I do it and emulate what is in front of her.

    So, we take turns. On the trails, I lead so she can follow my line
    on the fire roads she leads so she can set the pace and pick the trails we ride.

    We haven't spent much time on pavement yet because I don't think she's ready. She is itching to ride on the road - but she will have to wait until I give her the OK.
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  12. GI_JO_NATHAN

    GI_JO_NATHAN Long timer

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  13. luxlogs

    luxlogs Been here awhile

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    Could someone please tell me and my wife what hand signals you use.

    Thanks
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  14. fallingoff

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    she watches thru her mirrors

    my blinker when we need to turn

    on open rd put my left blinker on

    to let faster traffic past

    opening and closing hand blinker left on

    circle hand over head radar/police/slow down

    never tell her to go faster

    hand pretending to drink, coffee/feed/break do you want a rest

    she nods or shakes her head

    also put arm out left or right to tell her turn

    probably other ones we do

    cheers
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  15. Hurricane Bob

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  16. TwilightZone

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    >"Could someone please tell me and my wife what hand signals you use."

    I think JoMamma has a thread on that. Think it's 'kinky' or some such name.
    It is usually a 'safe word' though, not many hand signals.
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  17. tokyoklahoma

    tokyoklahoma 75%has been 25%wanabe

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    These work pretty well, and we add the drink signal for a rest stop. But my wife likes the last one best. :fyyff:rofl
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  18. Bill 310

    Bill 310 Poser Emeritus

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    Hand Signals - how they become a CB or other voice system

    We used to point to the gas tank for everything. Once shortly after a fill up and a large bottle of water I needed a quick rest stop.ASAP

    I was unable to explain that I needed to stop again with the pointing to gas tank signal - we had after all just filled up. So....

    In desperation I pointed to my crotch. She looked at me, shook her head and accelerated away :rofl:rofl

    I quickly moved into the lead and lead us off at the first rest area.:lol3
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  19. fallingoff

    fallingoff Banned

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    yep

    that's why we have comms

    better communication

    but spoils the fun as above

    cheers
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  20. Wout67

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    My wife's a better rider than I am.

    She has taught all the rider safety courses for years. She has thousands of more miles than I do.

    When we ride, she usually follows. I pay more attention to my lines, etc. knowing she is behind me. When we stop, I'll ask her. "How'd I do?"

    She always answers, "I'm not paying attention to you. I'm watching my own lines, etc. If I notice you do something dangerous, I'll let you know."

    So far, so good.
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