Why are most men so emasculated?

Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by Disco Stu, Oct 15, 2012.

  1. DoWorkSon

    DoWorkSon Been here awhile

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    Before I ever got a motorcycle I was dating a girl who refused to allow me to get one. I hated it. Thus, two weeks after we broke up, I got one and never looked back.

    I told the current GF(and future wife) that I will always have a motorcycle and it's my passion and I will always ride. Her answer was "good, do what makes you happy". She has never complained when I've bought one, or bought parts. She is a keeper.

    My best friend sold his so he could pay for "his wife's kitchen". He sold his motorcycle, something he was passionate about, loved, and which allowed us to spend hours wrenching and being guys, because his wife wanted a new kitchen. She refuses to allow him to buy another one, and he just makes excuses why he doesn't get one. He is the sole reason I fear getting married, to be in his shoes. NEVER!
  2. Mambo Dave

    Mambo Dave Backyard Adventurer

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    1. She isn't your wife yet, or
    2. you have a good life insurance policy she'd be able to afford her kitchen makeover with :D
  3. concours

    concours WFO for 41 years

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    LOL, "pussy bike", must be repeating wht his village people idol buds have muttered. Asshats. :asshat A good friend mentioned a proverb "there are no 40 year old orphans" Translated, you have control of your destiny, no matter how much adversity you've encountered. Good job to NOT let your father's ignorant comments hold you back/drag you down. That being said, try to have SOME type of relationship with him, no matter how small/shallow, etc. You may/can help him grow somehow.. That's it for my unsolicited advice. Good luck brother:freaky
  4. Mambo Dave

    Mambo Dave Backyard Adventurer

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    Thanks man. I've taken 'breaks' from him in the past (and he knew full well why - same negativity), and begged him to get help, and talked about it, and, really, ignored a lot of it most of my life.

    In fact that 'visit' was somewhere after a good break already.

    I agree with your friend's proverb, but nonetheless I don't need to be there for any more of it, and the best I can hope for is that he dwells on the loss enough that he'll at least think about what he's saying when speaking around my brother's young boys.
  5. baloneyskin daddy

    baloneyskin daddy bikaholic

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    Are you sure he's your dad.:roflHe's mad about something!
  6. windmill

    windmill Long timer

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    Ooooh,
    Is yours a hand bag, or a shoulder bag?
    Were you able to find one that matched your riding gear?
    Did you get it on sale?





    :lol3
  7. Tom48

    Tom48 Been here awhile

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    I have 4 motorcycles. The last one pissed off the wife of 41 years, I don't care about her view. The money came from my motorcycle fund.
    If one allows someone else to run their lives and passions, there is no advice for that condition.
  8. Terrytori

    Terrytori Namaste

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    I was going to respond to this thread but this pretty much articulates all that I would have said... and perhaps, more succinctly.
  9. Mat

    Mat Long timer

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    Tosser can't even cook or uses the kitchen himself? Talk about being emasculated...
  10. JimVonBaden

    JimVonBaden "Cool" Aid!

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    You also, apparently, need to put the $ sign on the wrong side of the number!:lol3

    Jim :brow
  11. manfromthestix

    manfromthestix Lost in Space

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    I've read through most of this thread, see myself at various points in my life and relationships in some of the stories, and could add a few horror stories of my own. I think I'll save some electrons, though, and just note that Jim absolutely NAILED IT on post #2 above. So Jim, how many marriages have you been through to gain so much wisdom? :lol3 I'm on my third, so I've learned a few things about the ways of women and relationships (#3 tells me the lessons have paid off). Thank you, Dear, you're right of course. :evil

    BTW, after two failed marriages, living alone for years, and dating a number of ladies I have found a woman who celebrates me being myself and I celebrate her being herself and it works GREAT! We talk and compromise and things work out very nicely for both of us. We're both very independent but recognize we're stronger together than separately. She's a keeper and she says I am too. We enjoy each others' company but are happy when apart as well. Finally, the partnership we've always wanted :freaky and knew we should have.

    Doug
  12. JimVonBaden

    JimVonBaden "Cool" Aid!

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    Hi Doug,

    More than one, and more than a couple LTRs. It is the LTRs before marriage that really showed me the right from wrong in a relationship.

    Fortunately, like you, I now have a wife that is very complimentary with me. We do our own things, and we do a lot together. We do not tell each other what to do, but we discuss a lot. She or I go shopping when we like and buy what we like, but both of us are mature enough to keep it reasonable, and discuss the big purchasses.

    Jim :brow