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Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by Disco Stu, Oct 15, 2012.
I blame skinny jeans constricting blood flow to the testes.
I refuse to talk to any man wearing skinny jeans.
I hear this a lot, how he was into riding, before the wife and kid's came along, lot of times he gets the ultimatum, it's me or the bike. In few instances, he would have been better off hopping on his ride and heading for the hill's. I've got some mate's, whose relationship's are a bit 'ragged' because of this issue, but they all still have their bike's. I've always told my girlfriend's that motorcycles and skiing, go where i go, if it doesn't suit them, we'll stop right there. It has worked fine so far. You just have to put your foot down mate
Hope she doesn' see this
A man who says "my wife won't let me" doesn't really want to ride.
People, by and large, do what they want to do.
The failure of fathers. Men don't understand how to be men and thus can't teach their sons. The rise of feminism and the portrayal of weak, bumbling men in the media don't help, but IMHO it all boils down to lack of good fathers.
EDIT: Oh, and as human ills said in the post above, people do what they want to do. But that's a different discussion than why the modern American man is weak.
I believe this is a matter of priorities and the changes that people go through in their lives.
For me, when I was much younger, I had a bike until I married and we had our first child. We were both working, but there wasn't enough money for baby food, diapers, and misc expenses that were added to the normal house hold living expenses. It became a budget issue: make the bike payment or buy diapers, etc. The decision was easy for me, because my marriage was a union of values, ideals, and principles. We agreed to start a family and jointly accept the responsibilities and expenses that came along with that decision. The bike had to go and I was ok with that decision.
After the kids were grown and the the expenses have settled down, we agreed that it was time to get another bike, and set a date when it would be acceptable (down payment saved, monthly bills under control, etc) and the shopping would begin. Turns out, neither one of us could wait that long, and I ended up buying a new bike almost a year early. Since that time, I have changed bikes three times, and this last time, she suggested that I buy another bike to replace the one that I had sold a few weeks earlier. Even the kids, now living on their own, couldn't believe that I'd been without a bike for so long. Everyone recognized how much I like to ride and knew it was a priority to me. So, I ride...
Then, I accepted the restriction and would have blamed my wife or my crappy job as not allowing me to afford a bike. It was easier to explain the restriction that way than try to explain my choice as a decision that I'd made with regard to priorities.
But that's just me...
I'm not really sure that is emasculation - plenty of women I know do whatever the hell they want to do and it doesn't make them masculine.
I think "wife won't let me" is a great excuse - that's what I say to dealers when i'm ready to leave and I want them to turn off the hard sell.
I gotta remember that one when I'm out kicking tires. That's an awesome way to get out of the dealership without going thru the hassle,
I make wimmens I'm serious about a deal. I'm not going to run around on em with any other wimmens but my bikes (pedal and moto). They were here first... So far its worked.
Riding (moto and pedal) is 'part of who I am.' The pedal part makes me a much nicer person to be around. The moto makes me and keeps the wanderlust down.
Could be she is right. Riding is dangerous. ya' know.. "it's not if you go down it's when"... etc.
May be she didn't sign on to be an early widow, or for her kids to have to visit their dad in the hospital.
It may have nothing to do with turning in your Man-card, but more with respect to your partners opinion and the fact that she may know you better then you think.
I am of the age now where I can almost keep to the speed limit, but there was a time when the throttle might as well have been an on/off switch..Needless to say I ride a whole lot more now.
it's not due to being emasculated.it's about your priorities and the balance in your life.
That's what the emasculated always say when confronted about their emasculation!
PS My wife insists I ride! I suspect it is so she can shop without my interference!:huh
I disagree. If this were true, why not say 'I've always wanted a motorcycle, but I have so many other things going on in my life?'
Funny stuff Jim!
A couple months back, my wife got mad at me because I suggested selling my strom.
I was planning on using the money to pay off some bills and buy a cheap little junk bike to ride for a while. She totally put me in my place.
I have a good one :)
Side note - the advice my MSF instructor gave the single guys= get a bike now so the precedent was set. "well, the bike was here first so you knew what you were getting into"
But mostly I think blaming the wife is used as a cop-out.
There is a difference between being told you cant do something you have always done and wanting to get into something new. I have only been without a motorcycle of some sort for about one year since I was 10 or so, so my wife knew going in what I was into. Say I all of the sudden decided to take up skydiving. I would think that would be something to discuss with the wife. Would weigh the pros and cons and come to a decision that was good for both.
Luckily for me the wife doesnt tell me no very often. I just put the thought into her head and she ends up into it as much as I am. That is why I have too many bikes now, just cant bring myself to sell anything.
Some men actually partner or marry a woman.
After my second ankle surgery I made the mistake of asking the surgeon if I could still ride offroad. Then I remembered my wife was sitting there and was kicking myself. Fortunately, the doc said yes but it had to be electric start. I looked over at my wife and she said "it looks like we are going motorcycle shopping."
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Or a staunch Liberal married to an extreme Conservative. :eek1
I think one problem is that many times a woman gets married and intends to change the man's ways, and the man gets married and assumes that the woman will always be the same. Eventually: kaboomity.
I fragging love that movie.