Why are most men so emasculated?

Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by Disco Stu, Oct 15, 2012.

  1. Yossarian™

    Yossarian™ Deputy Cultural Attaché

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    Early days of riding, my dealership excuse was "I can't afford one."

    Now, I just tell them, "That's more than I want to pay."
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  2. ct-ktm

    ct-ktm Long timer

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    I think if a man uses his wife as an excuse thats worse then letting her tell you what to do in the first place..:deal
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  3. Mistress of the dual

    Mistress of the dual Some say....

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    Men can be just as controlling as women. I see plenty of husbands that don’t let their wives do things. I have one friend who said she’d love to get a motorcycle, the husband said “there’s no way in Hell I’d ever let her ride a motorcycle”. He lets her keep getting back on her horse that keeps throwing her ass on the ground though.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:eek:ffice:eek:ffice" /><o:p></o:p>
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    I have never understood this concept that marriage means ownership. I do not ‘let’ my husband do/buy things. He’s an adult and therefore in charge of his own life. I may tell him that I think what he is doing/buying is idiotic but it is his life and his decision and I will support whatever that decision is. <o:p></o:p>
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    My husband used to get the question ‘your wife let you have a motorcycle? My wife would never let me have one’ from the guys at work. His reply was ‘let? Hell she bought it for me’. He was the envy of many a co-worker. <o:p></o:p>
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    As for the financial aspect, I think if your spouse is inconsiderate enough to be making expensive purchases that put you both so deeply in dept that you can’t pay bills, are about to lose the house etc you may want to have another look at their character.<o:p></o:p>
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  4. ct-ktm

    ct-ktm Long timer

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    Oh man some of you guys are killing me.:rofl:rofl:lol3

    Wait to the kids are in college..:lol3:lol3 it is ok if you die once they are in school..???...WTF..
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  5. car94

    car94 What's this Box for?

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    My stepson's wife "talked him into getting rid of his R-6" after they got Married because it was to dangerous and they were going to have a family. He was a E,O,D Tech at the time Deployed to Iraq.
    A few years later he's out of the Army and going to school full time and he used the tried and true its good on gas to get another "bike". I am betting when he finish's school he will have a full size bike. Here is the Hog he has now!
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  6. nuggets

    nuggets Fries with that?

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    The two-wheel equivalent of "just the tip" :evil

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  7. PMC

    PMC riding rider

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    Or two-wheel equivalent of gateway drug :lol3
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  8. ph0rk

    ph0rk Doesn't Care

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    Yeah but then they won't let you test ride it again next week!
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  9. Human Ills

    Human Ills Useful Idiom

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    :nod walking wallets.

    Nevermind that riding is a POSITIVE example if done correctly.

    Raising sheeple. :lol3
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  10. Tuna Helper

    Tuna Helper Rawrr!

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    Had a talk with the current girlfriend about something else, but I told her I am what I am and I do what I do. If people dont like it, too bad.


    I havent heard the "wife wont let me" in person, but i have heard guys say they are scared of bikes, or that they didn't want to have an accident when the kids are young. My thoughts have always been, when it's your time to go, you go.
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  11. DAKEZ

    DAKEZ Long timer

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    ANY person (male or female) that attempts to squash the dreams and desires of their mate should be kicked to the curb. It should be discussed and if the dream squasher does not relent then there is no point going forward with the relationship.

    Cut your losses and move on. No sense dragging out the inevitable.
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  12. marco-polo

    marco-polo Adventurer

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    I'd say that's right at least 50% of the time, although it is a dumb-ass way to go about it. If an angry wife is all that's keeping some guy paying the mortgage and not throwing away his salary on hookers and blow, then they're not much of a man to begin with.
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  13. Minisquatch

    Minisquatch Been here awhile

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    I got lucky-my wife likes guns, bikes, hot rods, and most everything else. If I could get her to like pussy as much as I do it would be perfect!
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  14. wmax351

    wmax351 Been here awhile

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    There is some truth to that. Life insurance takes care of the tuition. Less hard to deal with as a 20-something than a ten year old.
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  15. Abey

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    I agree with what you say.
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  16. ct-ktm

    ct-ktm Long timer

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    That is as incorrect as you can get..!!..my wifes little sister and 2 brothers were in there 20's when there parents passed it is not any easier at all.


    Somebody else posted about things being discussed thats what I don't get..when you are getting married don't things come up.?..do that many people think they are going to change the other one..?..
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  17. d.burbach

    d.burbach Been here awhile

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    This has got to be the saddest thread in all of ADV. Clearly, very few people have any idea what marriage truly is anymore, and clearly have no value for it. It seems like a lot of the guys on here use motorcycling as a way of running from their problems and god forbid their wives call them on it! Riding a motorcycle is great, it's a blast and I love it, but at the end of the day it's just a hobby and it's not what's most important in life, do you think your GS or whatever's coming with you when you go? Being man has nothing to do with telling your woman what you will and won't do, it's about being strong enough to love well, to lay your life down for your wife and family, even if that means motorcycles, and to confront your problems head on instead of hopping on your bike and pretending they don't exist.
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  18. BanjoBoy

    BanjoBoy Been here awhile

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    Just a hobby? Wut are you outta yer mind? :huh
    Ride'in is everythang; a necessity, cheap joyful transportation, therapy... And be'in a man is lay'in yer pimp hand on any nasty skank that getz between you 'n yer scooter. :evil
    I told mah sister that the bike is the center of mah universe, and she's down with that, so I dun married her. :clap
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  19. Uncle Pollo

    Uncle Pollo Long timer

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    Pollobabe met me when i arrived to the state on a bike. That is all.
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  20. HooliKen

    HooliKen Awesome is a flavor

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    Luckily I am married to a wonderful woman who understands that motorcycles are far more than a hobby. Riding and wrenching on bikes is not something I "do", riding and wrenching on bikes is part of who I "am".

    I have crashed and been laid up for weeks and never once was the subject of me not riding again come up. She has only has given me two demands in our 12 years together. I never ride w/o a helmet, and after hitting a deer and getting hurt pretty bad, that I never own another XB12X. (Not the bikes fault, I know, but a pretty simple demand to meet)

    If someone has a spouse in their life that tells them "you can't do XY" I am sure there are other issues involved.
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