Why are most men so emasculated?

Discussion in 'The Perfect Line and Other Riding Myths' started by Disco Stu, Oct 15, 2012.

  1. dirtrulz

    dirtrulz Been here awhile

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    I personally couldnt care less what "legacy" I leave behind. I dont like kids and dont want kids, neither does the wife. So no one will ever carry on my name. I dont care if anyone ever remembers my name when I am gone, it does nothing for me, I will be dead. "you" only live once, might as well have fun with the one life you get. It cant be done over again with someone who wont hold you back next time.

    It seems that people get married really quick these days and really dont know who they are marrying. They meet and fall in love and the sex is great so they get married after three months and then to their surprise they find out a lot of things they didnt know about each other. I dont know why people cant take some time to get to know each other, why be in such a hurry.
  2. d.burbach

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    A legacy doesn't have to involve kids, but I agree with the second part of your statement, people jump into marriage far to easily these days.
  3. d.burbach

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    I agree motorcycling can be just as much a part of who you are as anything else, but if for whatever reason I was prevented from getting on a bike again, I wouldn't somehow be less of who I am, I can be just as much who I am with or without my ability to ride.
  4. Tepi

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    Well yeah. I think the legacy I leave behind will have to do with motorcycles, I dont really know what other kind of legacy I would leave. Motorcycles really are at the top of my priority list. Ofcourse I work 5 days a week and have other necessities to do, but in my freetime its pretty much motorcycling if the weather is nice. If my future wife would say "you cant ride a bike if you wanna be with me" I'd think it would be pretty much over as far as I could imagine. It would be like being in prison.
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    bomber60015 Anatomically Correct

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    I think most folks who blame someone else for keeping them from something, anything, don't really want that thing very much.

    Last guy that pulled the "I've always wanted a motorcycle" routine a the gas station got, in the way of a reply, "well, BUY one . . . there's lots of bargains out there."

    "Well, you know, wife, kids, uncle dies on one, dog ate my homework."

    "Ah, got it."

    I geared up and beat feet . . . . .
  8. MotorCade

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    Yup.

    Using someone else as an excuse is just as pathetically emasculated as the original issue in question. You don't want a bike? Man up and say so. I'll personally have more respect for the person that says "Nah, I've decided it's not for me." than someone who makes an excuse.
  9. MotorCade

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    Yup.
  10. PhilB

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    Y'all just need to have something even bigger for her to worry about. My wife had to get used to the fact that I'm still best friends with my ex. Nothing else ever was an issue. ;D

    PhilB
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    ikonoklass Kountersteering Krew

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    My ex knew she couldn't keep me from riding, but she bitched so much, it really diminished my enjoyment.

    And that's how she came to be my ex.
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    Sure, stud.
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    First off, make damn sure you marry the right woman. After 32 years of marriage I can honestly say neither of us have ever laid down an ultimatum. However...

    I am fascinated by men who would choose a machine over the mother of his children. That sounds like a whiny teenager to me...someone who wants their way regardless of the consequences. I cannot imagine acting in such a fashion. My priorities do not include machines.

    Every "real man" I have every known...those who attempt to dictate how life goes....all seem to be divorced, single, basically alone. Me I want to be in my wife's bed every night!!! Therefore I take special precautions to keep her happy.

    I cannot imagine marrying someone who would try to tell me how to live my life or what kind of activities I should be involved in. I feel sorry for those who have made such a poor choice. But, you did make a vow. Men don't break vows!
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    "keep her happy" ... What about keeping yourself happy or her keeping you happy. Door swings both ways. I'm not going to be very happy when someone deals out threats "me or your hobby", especially when that hobby means alot to me.
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    Ginger Beard I have no soul

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    The first part of your post seems to describe a person that would set such a repugnant ultimatum, not the person that refuses to submit to it. In an instance like this it would be the ultimatum maker that is guilty of vow breakage. It is their choice to either persue or end the relationship. I would happily let them go if they want to be so controlling and petty.
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    I love my wife and she would never give me an ultimatum all "I'M" saying is when she bitches about my riding it takes away from the enjoyment of the ride. If i had a F--K her attitude her bitching wouldn't take away from the enjoyment of the ride.
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    I haven't read the whole thread but I did read about this in a magazine and it basically said that it's a new American phenomenon; the man as the incompetent accident-prone idiot prop of the American family. The article said to watch any commercial on TV and observe the man's role. He is either screwing something up, getting talked down to, etc.