Women going solo - is it safe?

Discussion in 'Trip Planning' started by GypsyWriter, May 5, 2010.

  1. GypsyWriter

    GypsyWriter Sarah

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    Ed, your reply really did soothe my ruffled feathers, especially your reply to Gitana (whose explanation I agreed with). We are on the same page, I guess I misunderstood what you meant and apologize. :)

    Shezonit, how cool to find another lady who started on an old Silverwing! They really are awesome little bikes, I still regret selling mine (it funded my Wee to a small extent). I appreciate your post and am curious what you ride now? :ear:thumb

    Re: the rebelling vs. being independent. I grew up in a very conservative household, so I suppose my riding the bike can be considered a type of rebellion. I adore my family and don't want to disappoint them, but this has very rarely dictated which direction I take in my life. Believe me I've pulled a few hairbrained stunts in my life and they still love me, even when they're bemoaning my actions to my face. :lol3 So I'll proudly wear the rebel moniker, I would simply rather not be judged for doing so. :freaky
  2. shezonit

    shezonit just a few more miles,eh?

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    Hi Sara--- I also had a V-Strom.... just sold it in February. I've been through 7 bikes since I started riding in 2004. Now I ride a KLR650 to Mexico, Death Valley, etc. For road travel, I sold the V-Strom to buy ----ready? an '82 GL1100 Standard(no bags). So in 7 years I went from the baby 'Wing to a naked OldWing. I LOVE IT! Here's what one looks like. http://www.flickr.com/photos/philmo/2302850080/
    Mine is black with gold pinstripes-- so classic. It weighs 150 lbs more than the DL, but the comfort.....and the motor.... and the seat.... ah............
  3. Ed~

    Ed~ What, Me Worry?

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    I just noticed the bike connection... I currently have a Wee that I ride mostly on highway with some off-pavement. For highway-dirt, I still ride my KLR. For really loose stuff that is a day trip, I may take the DRZ.

    I got my '06 DL650 after selling a Transalp to partially fund it. Really loved the way the Transalp rode but I did a ride-swap with my friend who bought the (then) newly released DL650 I was convinced that old technology is just... well, old!

    I love the Wee... a little off subject.:clap
  4. WaywardRider

    WaywardRider a geek on two

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    If you haven't already, I'd suggest checking out this thread:

    http://www.advrider.com/forums/showthread.php?t=264996&page=13

    I'll add this caveat, though ... don't be lulled into thinking solo travel is automatically safe by the posts from those who feel they have never had an issue with safety. They stayed safe because they were smart in their travels and their decisions (and maybe a little bit lucky :D).

    Have to admit that I can't quite tell if you're looking for advice about travelling on your own, or about how to deal with the concerns of your family. Reckon its a bit of both.

    I hope you embark on your dreamed of journeys, and come to some accommodation with your worried family and friends. But travelling solo is not for everyone, regardless of the high praise its given by those who do it (including myself). There is nothing wrong with travelling with others, it has its own charms and experiences. And, it defies the joy of solo travel if you do it for the wrong reasons. It should not be done because others have, it should not be done because you want to prove a point, it should only be done because that is the journey you want to embark upon.
  5. shezonit

    shezonit just a few more miles,eh?

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    Yeah, don't do it if it doesn't feel right for YOU. But don't let fear, and especially other people's fears, stop you doing something you want to do.

    As for riding with others.... In 7 years of riding, I have only found about 3 other riders I enjoy riding "duo" or "trio" with. Most of the time I get frustrated either with the riding style- following either too close or a mile back.... with too many coffee stops, too many gas stops (as in "why didn't you fill up when everyone else did....") disagreement on where and when to eat, where to sleep, how many hrs a day to ride..... Heck , sometimes on a hot day, I just stop somewhere in the shade and sleep an hour or two.
    When by myself, it is the Perfect Tour, because - surprise- it was MY tour.

    Start out with a long day trip. Then a weekend trip, then a long weekend.... then a week.... you get the picture. Each time you come back safe and psyched up, your family/ friends/ boyfriend will see that you, solo, can take care of yourself.

    Often women ask me "and your husband lets you do that?" LETS??? There should be no 'Letting' in an adult relationship. Letting implies permission. An adult relationship has understanding, not permission..... methinks.
  6. mpanther

    mpanther KotW - Just Ride!

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    If I may ask, what kind of shop and where at?
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    shezonit just a few more miles,eh?

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    I started 18 years ago on Flathead Lake in NW Montana. I sell things from my Asia travels--clothing, jewelry, decor, oddities-- the shop is called Rare Gifts. Over last few years more and more women's clothing. It's fun to see women having fun and I'm very grateful that it supports my travel habit.
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    mpanther KotW - Just Ride!

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    Thank you and good to hear it does too.
    Best of luck to you.

    (I like to know where ADV businesses are so I can support them if I am near. :deal )
  9. mw1111

    mw1111 Adventurer

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    Sara, just read that your from hanford too!

    ill tell you what. take me on your cross country trip and no more troubles from the family! boyfriend might take issue with it though, lol. :D

    Anyways, just glad to see there are advriders so close to where i live, i'd be grateful if we could meet up someday along with some other riders so i might get learned some stuff :clap
  10. transalpinesabine

    transalpinesabine n00b

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    what do you mean actually?
    :rofl
    safe for the men or the women?:rofl

    sabine:freaky
  11. Patrick46

    Patrick46 visionary

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    These sentiments do not apply only to the womens...I feel exactally the same! The only person I care to ride alongside anymore is my son...but we, naturally, have fine tuned our riding styles together.
    I'm someone who used to ride in big packs of hardcore riders. Anymore, I'm usually alone.

    I also wholeheartedly agree with the thoughts about the permission vs. understanding. I thought marriages were supposed to be a shared trip (mindset)...not one person dominating over the other.

    GREAT POST!!!! :norton
  12. Ed~

    Ed~ What, Me Worry?

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    Just in case you missed this on-going Ride Report I thought you might enjoy checking it out:

    "A Chinaese women rider's single tourment from Beijing to Sinkiang,hello Gobi >.~"

    A rare gem of a report from a young woman from the Big City riding solo across the vast Gobi Desert toward Xinjiang Provence, a region of China that is primarily Muslim in culture.

    I hope it proves inspirational for you. It certainly has for me...

    Ed~
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    Süsser Tod Long timer

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    Ed~ What, Me Worry?

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    Ah si, Gracias Hermano!:lol3
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    shezonit just a few more miles,eh?

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    I love to hear about women riding the edge. Without sponsors, video teams, etc.

    For myself-- just got back from 9 days in Mexico- a lotta new roads and great new people. The KLR just gets better (for me) every ride.

    Not solo, but I was the only woman on the trip with 7 hombres. Where are you ADV chicks?
    I'm going to Mexico again in October 2011 and March 2012. Start planning?
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    Penmeister Portabella

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    Sara,
    In this technological age I find it very easy to calm the worries of family and friends when I travel solo. I carry a smart phone and simply send out a brief text or post a brief ride report at the end of my day. I am a single female who has traveled in Europe, Africa, Central America and North America (not necessarily by motorcycle). My family has to put up with my travels because they know I am not going to listen to any antics from them. My friends would not be my friends if they gave me a hard time about my motorcycle travels. 98% of my riding is solo and I've never had any issues. People have always been friendly and helpful but I also stay clear of any areas that don't look "friendly" to me. Use your instincs and enjoy your solo riding! :clap
  17. GypsyWriter

    GypsyWriter Sarah

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    Too true, you need to rely on your instincts to guide you through a lot, whatever your sex. :D Thanks for your reply, it's always wonderful to hear from other ladies who've ridden the world! :clap I'm sure your friends love to hear about your adventures and yes the real ones wouldn't give you a hard time about your travels (unless they're jealous).

    See you on the road someday! :freaky