The trip wasn't supposed to be somber, or filled with self inspection. When it started a year ago, it was about an uncle, a nephew and a brother riding through the desert Southwest and truly enjoying each other's company. An intoxicated driver changed all that when he struck my nephew with an SUV and killed him as he rode his motorbike home from work. Now I find myself in a situation none of us want to experience, but all too often we find ourselves in. The ride changes for us, not worse, not better,but different.