heart hurt,,

Discussion in 'Pacific Northwet - Where it's green. And wet.' started by peterman, Jun 9, 2021.

  1. peterman

    peterman cop magnet Supporter

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    my best friend died, my wife died, my dog died. I got this message from my Brother Justin,

    A thousand words won't bring you back, I know because I've tried; neither will a thousand tears, I know because I've cried.


    Each happiness of yesterday is a memory for tomorrow.


    Always on my mind; forever in my heart.


    The life of the dead is placed in the heart of the living.


    Treasured in my heart you'll stay, untill we meet again some day.


    Forever in this heart of mine, an everlasting bond, for now until the end of time, are memories so fond.


    Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us every day.

    Unseen, unheard, but always near; still loved, still missed and very dear.

    - Anonymous


    Now I have lost another Brother, a man I loved and respected and hoped to spend lots of evenings by the fire with him nearby. Tom Blume, TBlume's Dad has passed on. Maybe not my place to announce this, but I am about all cried out, and had to share with someone. Crying does not help,,,,The "nothing you can do" part is what hurts the worst, I love you Tom,, I'll miss you Sir!
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  2. HellsAlien

    HellsAlien a has-been that never-was Supporter

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    Sorry to hear that.

    Just a year ago we were all fooling around with his sailboat stuck on the sand across from Port Townsend.
    Then find/fix the motor's water pump and yuk it up on deck.

    Glad I was there to meet him and be part of the adventure on this water-covered rock swirling around the sun.
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  3. jusbeach

    jusbeach Ramble on Rose

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    Oh no. @tblume I’m sorry Timmy. My mom passed December 7. It hurts. Hang in there buddy I’ll be thinking of ya.
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  4. tblume

    tblume Always Be Gambling

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    Fuck, got something in my eye, brb...
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  5. Derek939

    Derek939 Available in Extra Medium

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    Death is a bitch and it sure does seem to be striking hard the last 2 years. It sure has taught me to love and cherish every damn second you have with others. You never know when it'll be your last hug, last laugh or last beer. Sorry brother. Stay positice and keep your head up.
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  6. unclehoot

    unclehoot Been here awhile

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    Sorry to hear that Your Father has passed Timmy , thou I didn't know the Man I do know the pain that comes from loosing someone close . Mr Peterman Your plate keeps getting loaded up with this crap but You will come out on the other side of it . I know some of You and I know that You all are good caring people and it hurts then these things happen . God bless all of You who care enough to cry for those who have passed on .
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  7. pHelix

    pHelix Eternal n00b

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    Big hug when next I see you, Tim. You too, Peter. <sigh>
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  8. soyanarchisto

    soyanarchisto Long timer Supporter

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    Oh man, sorry for your loss Tim.
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  9. Sinnergy

    Sinnergy Mostly Harmless

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    Hey Tim,

    My dad passed about three weeks ago. Its a crappy time for it all around. If I have a word to share, it is: Don't let it be 'normal'. I'm finding it is those minutes when everything seems to be 'back to normal' that the claw reaches inside and tears at me.

    Condolences,

    Ron
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  10. sector

    sector Long timer Supporter

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    Bummer, Tim, I didn't know your Dad, but apples don't fall that far from the tree, so I'm really sorry I never met him. :( You take care.
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  11. Mista Vern

    Mista Vern Knows All - Tells Some.

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    Peace to all that knew and loved the man.
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  12. Scott_PDX

    Scott_PDX Leisure Engineer

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    RIP Father Blume. Hang in there Tim, your brother, and your other brother Peterman. Sad to see loved ones go. They are gone, but never forgotten.
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  13. ScottMalv

    ScottMalv Stay Thirsty!

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    Kind words Peterman, thank you.

    i just found out today,

    may we all raise a glass with Tom and his loved ones in our thoughts.
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  14. tblume

    tblume Always Be Gambling

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    Unbelievable hurt and work and drama, it's worth the struggle but not easy, not fun. I'm laughing at all the bullshit this project, process, work and historical pain and effort is right now.

    Thank you.
    My chosen family, my brothers and sisters I've met here on this silly website, Peterman, my best friend in the world, you know the hurt and loss and struggle to stay sane and do right, and everyone who I know and love that cares and has the strength and depth of character and soul; I love you, thank you for your thoughts and however it touches your soul I cannot help but be reminded that there are caring, feeling, real humans who understand.

    Fuck. :cry

    I am Dumbfounded and weeping and hurt and angry but will prevail, and my brother will too, and you my friends are helping just by being the real, caring, honest souls you are. I'm sorry I can't reach out to you all individually right now, but know your thoughts are appreciated, thank you all.

    I've learned that waiting to see a doctor because you might not afford it, is a fucking catastrophe. My dads dad literally lost the farm when he lost his leg all those years ago and my dad took that hurt and suffering to his early grave.

    Please take your body's signals as truth and go to the emergency room if you think something isn't right, fuck the cost.
    You can be around to see your grandkids graduate, arrange for your final wishes, finish that lifetime goal.

    More simply, get your shit together; guessing what a dead man wanted isn't fun, isn't easy.

    Take care of yourself and those you love.
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  15. peterman

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    What I know,,after sitting by the creek at the farm and crying, and listening to the advice of the running water for 2 days,,

    never go to bed angry.

    always tell the ones you love that you love them,,even if you just told them!

    Hugs are about as close as you can get to sharing your heart with another,your heart against theirs, pressed together,,so,hug tightly, and hold on just a little too long. Kisses are allowed too!
    I wish I could get just one more hug from my Brother Tom,,did I skweeze him hard enough last time I saw him? The kindest, gentle-est man I've met.

    I cried and cried, my tears didn't raise the creek level or change the salinity,,,the creek spoke softly, 'don't cry' ,nothing is really ever resolved,,, but to recall the times that my heart was elated from knowing such a fine man, the million times he made me smile or laugh, or think!, and to weigh that against the sadness I will carry forever. We have to find a balance with a prejudice to the positive side.
    Yes, it is raining and not a great day to go for a ride,,,but,,the flowers like it, and you don't have to water the garden!
    His kindness and gentleness live on in his sons. I know he was very proud of them, he did a good job of loving them.


    "And in the end,,the love you take,,is equal to the love you make."
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  16. peterman

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    Fuck you Dagwood,,,,,,!
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  17. unclehoot

    unclehoot Been here awhile

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    And They say that " Men are tuff and don't show how They feel " , I see a lot of hearts and kind soles there . I hope that You 2 keep moving forward and live Your lives like Your loved one's would want You to .
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  18. Road Rash

    Road Rash Infamous Supporter

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    Sorry to hear about your pops Timmy :cry

    I know it's easier said then done at this time (and all other times) but do your best to keep thinking of all the good thoughts you have of your Dad, you know.....................the ones that make you smile and giggle.
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  19. Squishy

    Squishy Elastically-kinematic.

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    Sorry T & family, it cuts like a knife at these times of great loss.
    Be strong for your boy's, your family, yourself, the pain will ease & the memories will be enjoyed with the pride, respect & laughter you often shared together.
    Ask for help, you have a bunch of friends eager to lend a hand if needed.

    Hugs brother Tim.

    RIP Tom. FB_IMG_1619271620714.jpg
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  20. linkweewee

    linkweewee tantum quantum

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    Life is short. Sorry my brother. We all love you.
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