Who else lives with the Black Dog?

Discussion in 'Australia' started by FatBoyCrash, Jun 24, 2009.

  1. Paul124ac

    Paul124ac Long timer

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    We (my sister and myself) thought the same thing, the point they were trying to make was that dad was no longer safe alone in his home, that we were causing anxiety for him and ourselves because we didn’t want to accept that. The words “Nursing Home” strikes fear into any fiercely independent person, my dad had to put his parents into one and he never forgave himself despite his mum wandering and getting lost miles from her home. We were driving back to the hospital with dad and my aunt after a day of him enjoying being home but also being assessed (very respectfully I will add) on various day-to-day tasks and all wondering how we were going to tell him living independently was not an option when he piped up in typical fashion and said “well, we’ll start looking at nursing homes then, can’t have you interrupting your lives to look after me. Just don’t put me in where Mum was.” Miss him terribly, he never made it to that nursing home, the day we took him to his home was the last day he left hospital upright.

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    He really enjoyed that day watching the yachts on the Derwent. Fuck cancer.
  2. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Just spent the last 12 days dealing Dad's failing health - 92 Monday last, ended up in Canberra with severe chest infection [Bronchial Pneumonia ?], series of phones calls, SMS' & messages
    Had a bit of a meltdown - fuck its hard watching someone fading away - dementia - sucks - hopefully dad will settle now he's back home - have programs in place
    but some people are very independent and take awhile to adjust,
    Cheers
    Baza
  3. Halifax614

    Halifax614 Misadventurer

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    Being involved with a Men's Shed in FNQ, I've heard directly from several of our members just how their lives were turned around & given some purpose again with a bit of companionship, understanding & most importantly; listening, by/from other blokes. This is most definitely the case with those who had lost their spouse.
    There are apparently more than a thousand Men's Sheds in this country; every one of them must have saved at least one life.
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  4. sidetrack one

    sidetrack one Chief Tiddler Supporter

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    New initiative from RAMHP and its a beauty!! Please have a look around the site and if it triggers anything just contact a co ordinator for help/referral to services
    https://www.yougotthismate.com.au/
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  5. Sfcootz

    Sfcootz fap:hoon Super Moderator Super Supporter

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    I googled Men's sheds. What a fantastic idea. I wonder how such a thing would work in the US.
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  6. Colonial Mick

    Colonial Mick FEMINISM KILLED CHIVALRY

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    Start one up mate.
  7. Dave Ward

    Dave Ward Long timer

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    A bunch of old grumpy men, possibly depressed, sitting around & probably with guns...

    What could possibly go wrong with that?
  8. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Now then Dave, I can't see a problem - they'd probably make a movie from the story - I want to see that new Daniel Craig one called 'Knives Out' ?
    Should be a great 'Who Dun It' ?
    Cheers
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  9. dunc

    dunc Coddiwompler Supporter

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    @Sfcootz the women have 1 down here as well

    the Cranky Womens Association

    C.W.A.

    true story look it up C.W.A.
  10. Colonial Mick

    Colonial Mick FEMINISM KILLED CHIVALRY

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    ...........Nothing...............

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  11. Halifax614

    Halifax614 Misadventurer

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    But seriously though.... The Men's Shed concept has been taken up successfully in Ireland, NZ, UK & the USA, according to the Australian Men's Shed Association website ( https://mensshed.org )
    There is a lot of public money being spent at Federal, State & local Council levels in supporting the Aussie organisation. My own GP repeats the mantra that every $1 spent now saves $10 later in long term physical & mental health care costs. Our local council is very supportive of the 5 Men's Sheds in this area.
    Just with the small Shed that I frequent (25 members, 10 -15 being current regulars), we would have received over $100K over the past 6 years since start-up in both monetary grants & 'in-kind' assistance from various sources that have transformed the run-down & rat-infested old cane farm machinery shed to a reasonably comfortable & well-equipped social area & work shop (Metal & wood). Plus our own fund raising & physical labouring have contributed too.
    Presently, our blokes ages range from late 40's to mid-80's; & they only occasionally resort to (verbal) violence when calling each other 'grumpy old bastards' or worse.... There are far more laughs than hissy fits. That's the reason they keep coming back of course.
  12. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Tried to get my old man interested in the Men's Shed @ Boorowa, he's 92 and was - up until a fortnight ago still building stuff in his shed,
    but he wouldn't have a bar of it - "because they're all old silly bastards over there" !!!
    Can only point them - can't make them go !!
    Cheers
    Baza
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  13. Sfcootz

    Sfcootz fap:hoon Super Moderator Super Supporter

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    Except it'd be a she shed. :lol3

    It might be hard in the US with insurance.

    People need a bit of companionship and an ear at times. I really think this is incredibly clever. I’ll look up the us men’s sheds.
    laughter is good medicine. Thanks for sharing this experience. :-)
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  14. gavmac

    gavmac Been here awhile

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    In my area there is also a Womens Shed, so go for it!
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  15. Cruz

    Cruz Lost but laughing.

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    Laundry?
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  16. Sfcootz

    Sfcootz fap:hoon Super Moderator Super Supporter

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    :fitz :lol3
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  17. Dave Ward

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    A women's group uses our local MenShed one day/morning a week. They call 'emselves the Birdcage.
  18. Dean Ohlin

    Dean Ohlin inner city elite Supporter

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    Having now clicked the link, I sincerely apologise for my first thought as to what you meant.

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  19. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Look at the past - sometimes the future answers are there ?
    Cheers
    Baza
  20. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    How's everyone with the fires happening around the place ?,
    been seeing a lot of community spirit popping up in the form of food and water and other supplies for our firies out there away from home
    Should be the authorities supplying these items - after all it is a war isn't it !
    Cheers
    Baza