Looking for the elusive single female rider

Maybe the problem you are having, is that you consider single female adventure riders to be a form of BREAD.

All the single female adventure riders that read your post, will have already figured out that you are from North Carolina....just by you calling them BREAD.

That, or he just really can't stop thinking about their buns.

LOL to this whole thread.

^^^^This^^^^
Well said.

^^ Flip side.. wifey and I ride together all the time and we have a GREAT time. Not many people do though. It's way better than her riding her own bike and I have to constantly worry about her.

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They are out there, yes, unicorns, in that finding one who shares your hobby can be a chore.

Just make your own. Find a woman with whom you are simpatico first. Introduce her to your hobby a little bit at a time. When things still feel right, get her her own bike and ride with her, taking it easy at first and gradually increasing the difficulty of the terrain you will encounter. Do not be surprised if she out performs you and continue to be supportive when she does.

Don't try to "teach" her. Women, I have found, don't learn physical things in the same way as men and are/can be confused by the physical differences, they tend to finesse things rather than beat them down with strength. They will clue onto the mental aspects of riding much more quickly and, while they can be intensely competitive, they often succumb to over thinking some little aspect and forget the overall picture, which is to have a good time.

She is out there, it is up to you to find her and build the relationship. It takes time though, something not all of us have anymore. At 75, I have given up. I just enjoy the mental view from afar.

The other thing to remember is that people, and hobbies, and health change over time.

Here's my story, FWIW:

Back when I was single and in my 40's I, too, was looking for a partner and riding companion. I was immediately attracted to a woman who responded to my personal ad and said that although she didn't currently ride, she had in the past and had owned a couple of motorcycles. It didn't hurt that she was a redhead, too.

We started dating (our first date was actually my motorcycle club's annual Christmas party) and went on a few rides together. After dating a couple of years we moved in together and shortly thereafter, she got her own bike. We rode together, but not often - I like long, all-day rides, while she was more of a short ride, get some lunch, and ride home kind of person. She had lots of friends from her motorcycle club (Women on Wheels) but she was really more into the "social" aspect of riding than actual riding itself.

In 2009 we got married. Still did a few rides together (but not many.) Then in 2010, following surgery she acquired a medical condition called Complex Regional Pain Syndrome that caused extreme pain when exposed to any kind of vibration - like the kind from riding on a motorcycle. She tried, several times, to ride, but she simply couldn't do it. In 2012 she finally sold her bike.

But she knew that I loved riding and she never begrudged me a "kitchen pass" to go riding. She will often even suggest that I go on a ride if it's a nice day and she wants to do things around the house without me.

Anyway, I know this is a long story but it does have a point and that point is this: Even if riding is your no. 1 passion, that doesn't mean that your potential partner has to SHARE that passion - it's sufficient if she just respects you enough to let YOU enjoy it. And also (particularly at this age) you will likely find that she has passions and interests of her own that you have no real affection for, either.

I certainly can't call myself any kind of "expert" in relationships but it's not necessary for the two of you to be joined at the hip for all of your interests. You will have things you do together and things you don't do together and as long as you each respect the other's particular passions and interests, the relationship can work.

The bottom line is that if you are restricting yourself to looking specifically for women who enjoy your particular style of riding, you are shrinking your potential pool of partners to a tiny fraction of what it might otherwise be.

Don't make it weird.

You’re just scared she’ll ride better than you Todd!

Fairly good advice within this thread.
I can tell you this-
30% of the students in BRC’s across the USA, are female. Where I used to coach, they have 48 students every week, during DLS.
That works out to approx 15 females per weekend. Some of those are bound to meet your other criteria.
If I was you, I’d just ride and enjoy what you have now. If she shows up, then great. If not, then great!

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Rare bread?

Grocery store?

I am with the 'failed marriage' poster. Your best mate might not be into your motorcycling now, but she may take a shine to it after awhile. For me it was a long long while. We became a couple when we were in our very early 20's. I raced local motocross so she came to a lot of my races to hang out. I even rebuilt an old Honda CB350 cafe style bike and gave it to her younger brother. But he wrecked it within a week so that was the end of that phase. In those days I never really had a street bike so her exposure was simply the paddock. Roll the clock forward 47 years and we finally started riding two-up a couple years ago. We tow my Africa Twin behind our Winnie and we ride it through the National Parks. She has all the gear. Then last year we bought her a Vespa 300. We do local rides on our two bikes pretty much once per week. In fact we took the two bikes to Austin two weeks ago to see MotoGP. I must say, at 66, I worry about her on her scooter. But she loves it and is a very competent motorist. She was a pretty good auto-crosser back when we were young. She hasn't lost her touch.

That's how mine worked out. I actually met her on EHarmony. The last line in her profile was "I like dirt bikes and atv's." She had ridden some in her early twenties (we were in our mid-late forties when we met) but didn't have a bike. This was ten years ago. She now has a dirt bike, a street bike, and a dual-sport bike. We rode Oklahoma, Kansas, and Missouri last weekend. We have a good time.

This thread reminds me: a girl I worked with recently was going through a divorce. She said all she wanted was a guy who would go do things, not just sit on the couch or in front of the computer. I told her to get a motorcycle, that she would have a hundred guys calling her. The last time I talked to her, she was planning to get one.

I met my wife Colleen on Match.com
I was on two years and only went on two dates, hers was the last one.
You have to unashamedly tell the truth with your profile, then if like me you continue to tell the truth likelihood is you won't get many 'dates'.
If all you want is dates it's easy, just keep things back in your correspondence.
I was SUPER picky.....I also was brutally honest. After a few internet back and forth with potentials they either decided they didn't like me or I decided I didn't like them. Colleen and I were a 95% match....the ding was distance. I had a 35 mile radius and she was 36 miles away!
I'd talk to someone and they'd say "oh yes I like mountain bike riding"...so I'd ask what kind of bike they had.....if the answer was a long time coming that was a sign they weren't liking as much as me, they didn't know what bike they had, if they had one stuff like that.
I had an aversion to certain professions and sports. No Realtors. No Insurance people. No golf. No tennis. No cats. No dogs. No meat. No television.
Must love the outdoors, music, camping. I wouldn't compromise...if you ate meat....done.....if you had a cat.......done.....if you are a Realtor .......done..........so be honest, truthful, know what you want, don't compromise, don't waste your time, money and effort....or theirs.
If you just want dates and sex adultfriendfinder.com is where I got my kicks.....................

My experience, in five crisscrosses across the United States and Canada...is that, disqualifying pillion passengers, the ratio of male to female riders is about 10:1

Of the female riders out there, most are either in mixed groups...as in, a group ride of couples; or in girl-only rides. Five or six of them going to Starbucks or on a dessert tour of whatever city. I can't draw more generalizations than that; there have been some mature females out; some apparent mother-daughter twosomes (on separate bikes) and some adventurous young women.

Keep in mind, it IS different out there. You could compare long-distance riding to hitchhiking. You and I might be able to do it for decades, and the worst that comes of it, is maybe blisters on the feet or getting wet in a rainstorm. Let an attractive young woman hitchhike...and something bad is going to happen to her, and soon.

And a rider, any rider, is going to be cognizant of dangers. There are old riders and bold riders, but no old, bold riders. Awareness and caution are the rule. So, women alone, are going to have a guard up that I will not have. I may enjoy shooting the bull at the gas pumps or when I get where I'm aiming. A woman hanging out the same way...is probably not sending a message; but a lot of male riders will maybe want to convince themselves, she is.

It's a tough order and I never cracked it. Back 33 years ago, my ex got exposed to riding on the back of my Yamaha...and had a great time. She was trying to decide if she wanted to take the plunge. Meantime, I got unexpected (involuntary) time off work, summer...and wanted to try my first cross-country motorcycle tour.

She gave me permission but she steamed. She wanted to go. On her own machine.

She was negotiating with the local Yamaha dealer on a 250...gonna surprise me...when I surprised her instead. With a message, that I was in Intensive Care in a hospital 400 miles away.

That ended that. She didn't buy; and my own bike, wrecked, was sold as a total loss.

I met my wife....standing in line at the bank. She was standing right in front of me, talking to her girlfriend, and then she mentioned the word....motorcycle.
I said, "excuse me, did you say...motorcycle?" That was it.....she had been riding for 2 weeks, and had 100 miles under her butt, having just completed the MSF class, and she had just bought a little 1983 Honda CM 250 Custom. At the time, I had 1.4 million miles under my butt.

It was a match made in heaven. Many, many years ago her mother used to ride an Indian Scout in the Wall of Death at Coney Island, in New York. My wife never got to ride with her mother, as her mother dies in 1972, but my wife carried fond memories of her mother riding motorcycles. It took us several years, but we finally found a large poster of the Wall of Death that showed her mother as one of the riders.

Now, 19 years after we met, and 17.5 years into a good marriage, she has gone through many, many different motorcycles, rides her motorcycle to work as often as weather permits, just bought her an older Sidecar rig so she can ride on days when the weather is not great for her 2 wheeled bike. While I am retired, she still works for another 7 years, but has no issues at all if I want to go ride cross country, down to South America, up to Tuktoyaktuk, and all points in between.

The best part is...as a rider, she truly gets it...truly understands WHY we ride, and has no qualms about buying a dozen motorcycles, if that is what makes us happy.

Visit Thailand: it won't matter how old, fat or ugly you may happen to be...you will still find girls who will stroke your bald spot and whisper in your fluffy ear, "You sexy man!"
They will very likely ride motorcycles too...though of the smaller capacity, step through variety, more often than not.

Oh...and be wary of girls with overly large hands and feet...they may be more at home in the "some assembly required" sub-forum.