Man down....

Discussion in 'Face Plant' started by hardwaregrrl, Aug 21, 2017.

  1. ErikMotoMan

    ErikMotoMan Airbag crash survivor!

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    Lost my girlfriend to a drunk driver, back in 1973. She was 15.... a gorgeous sweetheart of a girl - just waiting for the school bus when the dude came around a corner and ran wide. I'll never forget it.

    We try to make sense of these events, but what's the use? My condolences to everyone who has lost a loved one in such a horrible manner. Life goes on, but you'll never be the same.
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  2. hardwaregrrl

    hardwaregrrl ignore list

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    I'll never make sense of his death or my moms to cancer. I'll never get over either.....just as a human trying to wrap my brain around something I can understand and relate to. I realize its futile.....but I'm a stubborn fucker.

    Sorry about your girlfriend...what a horrible way to go.
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  3. Mayomoto

    Mayomoto Neuroatypical

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    Just buried a good friend, she was the mother of two high schoolers, a wife, a daughter, a sister. Cancer. Her last wishes were for the funeral to be a giant party. Open bar, band, catered bbq, it was awful and wonderful, helped with the sting, but the ache lasts forever. Godspeed to your friend, peace to you.
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  4. hardwaregrrl

    hardwaregrrl ignore list

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    And to you and yours.... 3 things I wish someone had taught me. How to manage money, how to cook, and how to deal with death. I try to smile everytime I think of him. I'm sorry about your friend. Cancer is awful, just lost my MIL to lung cancer, her second bout with the demon.
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  5. Mayomoto

    Mayomoto Neuroatypical

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    Shit girl, I aint sure anyone knows how to do that. We're both to the point in life where there will be more funerals than weddings. Maybe you just get used to it, but I cant see how. I definately been smellin the roses a bit more these last few weeks, more time with the kids, really makes you take account of how you spend your energy.
    I used to be a banker, still spend money like a pimp with two weeks to live. I taught myself to cook. I doubt there is any real way to deal with loosing someone you care about other than time. I like that you smile when you think of him. I found a text from Julie yesterday on my phone and did the same thing, maybe you are already doing it right. Go hug your wife and the boy.
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  6. threewinmag

    threewinmag Happily Lost

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    Regarding this, I like (and use) the new iPhone feature that turns off notifications while you drive. Of course you can disable it any time you want, but it's a good first start to weaning us all off our habit of immediate distraction at every bell and whistle out phones throw at us hourly.
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  7. icebox

    icebox Long timer

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    My deepest sympathies, emotional pain hurts as much or more than physical pain. No making any sense, peace only comes with time. Best wishes.
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  8. JaySwear

    JaySwear Been here awhile

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    This is a fear I think all motorcyclists have. So sorry to hear about your loss. I hope some justice is served.
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  9. vhntr1

    vhntr1 Adventurer

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    Sorry for your loss,lost my dad last year,I don't think nobody will ever figure out how to deal with death everybody handles it a little different,it just sucks!
    God bless
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  10. cecilsaxon

    cecilsaxon Been here awhile

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  11. ragtoplvr

    ragtoplvr Long timer

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    since charges are filed she will get get punished,

    if she hires a lawyer she is out a lot of money, if she has a pd then she will have to take a plea

    Rod
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  12. ShiftHead

    ShiftHead the f is silent.

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    Getting angry seems to make no difference, I run out of fingers everytime I drive watching people stare at their f u cking phones while driving. I always slow down and stare at them. Usually they just put the phone down and stare straight ahead indicating they know it's wrong enough to feel a little shame, or they act like I am the asshole, which makes me act like an asshole. Let's see your Hyundai Excel get around my Tundra Crewmax 5.7. If you want to stare at your phone, go right ahead, you can do it behind me while we drive 20mph on this 55mph road.
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  13. Apxgrndr

    Apxgrndr In the snow

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    I stopped riding on the street a few years ago, I mean look around when you're on the road, every second motorist is glued to their fucking phone, it's terrifying!
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  14. Uke

    Uke visualist

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    Have you stopped driving on the street?

    You may be safer in a cage (or not) but simply being in a cage won't make the other shithead put down their phone. Last June my PreRunner was totaled in a chain reaction freeway wreck which I cannot call an accident as it is no accident when some shithead chooses to lose themselves in their phone, even at 60mph. Had I been on my bike and watching my six (mirrors) I like to think I could have filtered out of the shithead's way. In my PreRunner, there was nowhere to go.

    The shitheads are going to be shitheads and unless you lock yourself in your bathroom, they will either nail you or someone else, possibly the innocent victim behind you who in turn will nail you.

    No one wants to take responsibility for this. No one wants to do the right thing and equip all vehicles with a device rendering a phone inoperative when the vehicle is in motion. This ever increasing danger isn't going to just go away nor even decrease. It can and will get worse until some national politician's family is directly impacted (read this as a dead kid or other family member) and suddenly it will become a national crisis.

    Fucking phones
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  15. HandCanonShootr

    HandCanonShootr Been here awhile

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    And they are called SMARTphones! On a regular cross town ride (Downtown Los Angeles) for my visit/walk with Moms, I count the distracted cell drivers on my commute. Usually get to #10 during a 12 mile/30 min commute. A separate category is for drivers of Toyota Prius & Honda Civic owners. Their Cell use is off the charts. So...

    My Pelican cases (S10) are the right height to cleanly remove the painted cover for their side mirror, with a gentle kiss. If I'm a little off, or they are on the dotted line their whole mirror is left dangling, As they look up from their dam phone!

    Always have my index finger extended & resting on the ft.brake lever (city traffic always), and regularly loosen the tension in arms & back, so I'm loose & ready to react. Also limiting my lane splitting speed to +15mph of traffic.

    Mike B.
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