Who else lives with the Black Dog?

Discussion in 'Australia' started by FatBoyCrash, Jun 24, 2009.

  1. JohnG.

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    Fkn'ell! Just keep typing here man, the ones left behind now need you
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  2. explodingmouse

    explodingmouse Been here awhile

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    Thanks for all the kind words of support fellas , tomorrow Im of to visit my friends parents , it's taken me a while , Sunday is the day we shall all gather at the Governor Hindmarsh hotel
    to celerbrate his life from 4pm all who may have been fans of the band are welcome to join with friends and family for a proper send off. once Im hoping after Sunday things relax a bit.
    Once again thank you.
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  3. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Gone - three less prjects - three less to cart to new premises in the future
    New attitude - new start - looks like down south is going to happen - pretty settled on around Bairnsdale area !
    Cheers
    Baza
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  4. Canary

    Canary Been here awhile

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    Well done Baza. :clap
    A clear out is sometimes good for the soul. :nod
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  5. dunc

    dunc coddiwompler

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    the stories that they could probably tell would make a great story
  6. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    This old bugger of a bike would be the storyteller dunc
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    Cheers
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  7. xrsism

    xrsism Been here awhile

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    This is well worth a watch people if you have 1/2hr. Just watched it this morning, really enjoyed it and relate to a lot of what is said.
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  8. hunter_greyghost

    hunter_greyghost XS650 Allroads Traveller

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    Well worth the time to watch this, and as you said - very related to what I've been through
    time to change and move on
    Cheers
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  9. Gravelroadster

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    Hi All.
    Just come out of the lurker shadow and posting all over the forum like a dog pissing on posts but this one is probably the one that got me to register as an inmate....I should have come here for my first post!
    Yes! I live with the Black Dog!
    Isnt it a great world we live in that we can declare it and not get locked in a padded cell.
    Recently I changed medication which meant I had to go 2 weeks without chemical help and face the Dog down one on one again. I decided it wasnt fair on my work mates so I sent a message around explaining what I was doing and apologising if I "wasnt with the program". I was stunned at the positive response.
    So to all those who have bravely posted here. Be positive. Think positive. SEEK HELP WHEN NEEDED. support is growing.
    In the mean time, if I can help please let me know.
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  10. DittyBag

    DittyBag A bag of dirty stuff

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    Similar to advice for riding a motorcycle regarding target fixation, look to where you want the bike to go and not where you don't want it to go....
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  11. cascade63

    cascade63 Been here awhile

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    Been with the dog longer than I care to remember. Actually it was down in Antarctica where i was working on behalf of the Army near on 30 yr ago. Didn't cope too well due to losing a nephew to SIDS who was same age as my young one so I requested coming back early. Army frowned upon that back then so sent me straight to Darwin where i wasn't much better and curled up in a ball. They suggested we mutually agree to me leaving the Army after 9 years service, thanks Green Machine, for fuck all. Since then life was bearable until about 10 years ago, f*cked up in a big way, lost houses, split up with wife, put kids through hell, tried the big no no a few times and lived in a very dark place for too long. They tried meds, they tried locking me up ( which I didn't take kindly to either). Walked away from everything and had a holiday, caught up with wife again and life is manageable. These days go by pretty well ok and I enjoy my own company more often than not and dearest respects that. I can't offer advice because I took no advice and didnt want to listen to anyone and I still dont. I figured that out when I was out on my bike, no on knows your medicine apart from you and the hardest part is finding it. Mine is alone time and the garden and bikes, varies person to person.
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  12. xrsism

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    Its a good analogy DB.
    For me the most important part of the interview was talking about the aha moment and I agree that we often have aha moments but fail to act upon it. Its something I have kept to remind myself. To not just internalise something or just think about it but to act as well.
    Since watching this I have made a time to meditate and think positively.
    Also while I was in denmark a few weeks back I dropped in on a free yoga class hoping it might help with my back. I definitely had a life changing experience. Safe to say while the back is not perfect its definitely helping.
    Took up drumming. Went out and bought some conga drums and bang away on those most nights.
    Just trying to fill up my life with more uplifting parts i suppose.
    The other good news I have is my son who was getting into trouble at school seems to have shaken off a lot of his problems. He was suffering from severe computer addiction and to cut a long story short after a couple of months completely computer free is becoming normal again. He has a few lapses now and again and seeing just a few seconds at a friends house is enough to trigger him so still some way to go.
    A big part of his problem was due to hidden pressures of being a parent. Even though I could see what was happening I veiled it with fears of him being left behind in a high use computer world or alienated from circles at school.
  13. DittyBag

    DittyBag A bag of dirty stuff

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    XR, I think comp addiction is a huge problem for kids. I can see the potential for it to consume one of my kids. It is something that can make a person a permanent basement dweller for the rest of their life. Best wishes with that as well.

    The aha moment for me is more about how I tend to dwell on the past and relive that crap and how it can affect my physical health. I never considered how thinking about those things could actually make me sick. I have different injuries and pain from them that seems to be in a viscous cycle. When one body part starts to get better, out of the blue, another body part takes a dive. I think that I can learn to focus on thinking about where it is that I want to go and where I want to be.
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  14. xrsism

    xrsism Been here awhile

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    Yep for sure DB, there is a lot to take in from the vid. I totally agree with what youre saying. I hope you can get there bud. Im not sure if it is an easy thing to do but like all training just takes time and practice to allow the changes to happen.

    On the computer addiction thing there is a lot to be said. It took a lot of courage to finally pull the plug....boom tish.... on electronic devices for him, however I will say that I will never have any in my house again. it has been that changing. My wife read something interesting the other day that the top 5 computer somethings (not sure if it was the top5 computer tech company owners or not) in the world have computer free kids.
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  15. Gravelroadster

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    Thanks for sharing your story C63. The Army certainly dont have a good record of managing injury especially mental ones. My wifes Niece wanted nothing else but to serve her country but after they totally screwed her feet up through forced pack marches she was discharged without so much as a thankyou.
    Your story highlights one of the big issues of mental health. Only those who want to be helped can be helped....and the bastard dog doesnt want to be helped most of the time. Fantastic that you have found a way to cope better.
    The biggest "yay" for the day goes to supportive spouses. So sad you both had to go through hell to get there.
    Here is a toast:1drink to all those who serve our country :clapand a big wish that the military will provide mental health services to all personnel. LEST WE FORGET those who became casulties when they came home.
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  16. Hay Ewe

    Hay Ewe Just a Wannabe

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    I dont have time for a long post right now, but a few things

    I have been lurking for a while and seeing / trying / understanding a few things.

    I am starting to work out deeply and fully the root cause of how i have become how i am at the moment. For me, understaning something is the only way to a solution (sounds obvious but it is a long story for me)

    Easier isnt always easier.

    Time is my problem. So much to do / want to do that it causes me frustration.

    The reason for prompting me to post this is the short convo above about computer addiction. Recently i have found it increasing easy to fall down YouTube rabbit hole and 1.5 hours later i havent done anything

    We all have our black dogs, they are not the same black dog but affect us in different ways. This morning mine was there, i talked with a mate who has similar time problems, and chatted on line with another and it is better now. I havent been on you tube sine about 10:30 this morning!
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  17. Gravelroadster

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    Hi Hey Ewe. As a recent lurker who came out of the shadow myself, isnt it a great feeling...?
    Do you think it is the You tube rabbit hole that feeds your dog..or is that you (or your dog) beats you up because you feel you have wasted time?
    One of the things that I learned from my counselling sessions is that we become what we think. If every time we make a mistake we tell ourself "you dumb ass" you start to believe you are.
    Could you do something for me? Could you (in your head) list all the jobs you finished today and see how many hours it totals. Now, does 1.5hrs of you tube addiction seem so bad?
    If the answer is yes, maybe some help is needed. If the answer is no...your self coping systems are doing OK.
    The main thing, like most of these stories, you are finding you own cope mechanisms and talking to others. Great stuff!
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  18. buckscreek

    buckscreek AUTODIDACTIC

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    I was in a course today and one thing a presenter said really struck a chord with me "sorry is for broken vases, don't apologise for who you are"
  19. Gravelroadster

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    Oh. Amen brother! That is the best!
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  20. Canary

    Canary Been here awhile

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    Went on the Black Dog Tassie Ride last year which was in support of our defence force and emergency services personnel who deal with severe mental health issues regularly.
    My brother who was in the Army for over 20 years still struggles regularly with PTSD. I feel this was not dealt with correctly when he was in the Army, or followed up when he was discharged. The ADF seriously need to deal with this issue if they have not already taken measures to do so.
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